JV :
Thank you Dr Brian! Thanks for making me cry! But that’s ok too. We went through this recently with my mom. She had dementia/Alzheimer’s and had to be moved to retirement home very close to me. She deteriorated over time. I would come to her @ least 4 days a week and tried to do normal things with her, walks, going to activities at the home etc. She had a lot of falls, and CHF, and eventually had to move her to LTC. Then she stopped doing most normal activities, got lost, and had a fall and fractured her hip. I had to make the decision to have the surgery or mom would have lived in terrible pain. Like you, I had to make the decision to go on Comfort Care. Mom did go back to LTC, but she really didn’t eat, stopped communicating. Her lovely PSW Kayla treated mom as her own, couldn’t have asked for better. One day I got the call to come back in. There was no turning back. My daughter flew in overnight from Victoria and mom had been mostly sleeping, maybe listening, and restless, so restless. But she opened her eyes when my Kristen came in, she smiled and opened her arms for a hug. Kristen looked to me as if to say I thought you said gramma was dying… I know mom understood what was happening. She returned to more sleeping than awake, but she would perk up for small moments. My kids were there constantly. My son sat and played quiet guitar beside her. We had some lovely visits with family. And then when it became quiet, just me, my son and daughter there, quietly watching, touching mom, holding her hand, and I’m sure she could finally let go. It was a tough week, but it is now such a lovely memory,if I can say that. Thanks for pointing this out to us. It happens. And yes, mom was there, even when she was not. ❤️🥲
2026-08-03 01:52:22