@drdeborahparenting: When a child pulls their parent's hair, most parents say "don't pull my hair," "ouch," "that hurts," or they spend several minutes explaining why pulling hurts. Now the child learns that pulling hair creates interaction. More attention. More opportunities to repeat the behavior. So they pull again. Hair pulling has never cost them anything they care about. Here's what to do instead. Before it happens, establish the rule: "Hair is never for pulling." Then define the consequence: "If you pull my hair, your favorite toy is unavailable until tomorrow." The moment they pull, remove their hand. Say one sentence: "You pulled my hair. Your fire truck is unavailable until tomorrow." Then the interaction ends. No lecture. The toy stays unavailable. Following the rule keeps access to what they enjoy. Breaking the rule costs access to something they value. When every choice has a predictable outcome, children begin making different choices. That's when the system installs. Follow for more parenting systems. #Parenting #ParentSupport #ParentingCommunity #ParentingTips #PurposedParenting #ParentCoach

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