Tough_love_advice :
Let me give you some perspective from the other "fit" side. For 3 yrs, I've spent 4 days a wk, 1.5hrs a session of heavy, intense workouts spending every bit of energy. Like I hardly have the energy to walk home after. All this to lose 25lbs, & put on significant muscle, which meant having a steady diet 80-90% of the time for 3yrs. I'm 6'1 220lbs, have loads of previous injuries/major surgeries to deal with on top of it. Do I look like to myself how much work I've put in? not even close. I thought I'd look better, have no stomach & fat off the problem areas that I don't like. All this to be seen by a stranger who thinks "genetics", "he is naturally that way, I wish it was that easy for me". 90% of the compliments In my life have "genetics" somewhere in there (ironically, even family). You essentially get little credit for looking fit, by the general public. They always think there's a substance to take, secret program, or genetics, bc they never seen you put in the work & wouldn't put in 1/100 to do it. The main point is, that you will never be judged for the work you've put in, bc ppl will always project or discredit you for the way that you look. Nobody will ever see the struggle that you've lived through.
2026-07-08 14:13:37