@elly.psychologist: Constant self-doubt without an obvious cause gets a lot less confusing once you get specific about it. Start by asking exactly what your self-doubt is saying, not just noticing that it's there, but the actual words. Is your self-doubt telling you you're overreacting, that you're too needy, that you must be misremembering what happened? Naming the precise phrase turns vague self-doubt into something you can actually look at properly. From there, ask whose voice that self-doubt sounds like. Self-doubt is rarely a fresh, neutral thought, it's often something internalised, a narrative absorbed from someone significant, whether that's a voice from your past or someone very present in your life now. Tracing where your self-doubt came from helps separate your own judgement from something that was handed to you a long time ago. The most useful test, though, is imagining a friend coming to you with the exact same self-doubt about themselves. What would you honestly tell them? Most people are far harder on themselves than they'd ever be with someone they love, and that gap is usually where self-doubt lives. Try speaking to yourself with that same honesty, then actually sit with what's underneath the self-doubt rather than brushing it aside. It won't shift in one go, but noticing the pattern is where it starts to loosen Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #selfdoubt #doubt #relationshipproblems #toxicrelationship #relationshiptok

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