The Pottymouth Guru
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Alle :
The feeling of being too much and not enough simultaneously starting from early childhood is a very difficult way to navigate life. Figuring out how to “be just right” is a challenge and makes it hard to know how to respond to (constructive) criticism. Being able to recognize that the flood of emotions (especially shame) is a neurologic signal vs personal (perceived) failure has been helpful for me.
2026-07-17 20:07:33
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Mike H :
“We need to talk” are four words that put me in panic mode instantly, because it’s ALWAYS followed by hours and hours of hearing how I’m an awful person because I didn’t do the dishes when I was told or something.
2026-07-08 18:05:38
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Mr. Nobody :
Yes,and a compliment feels like a lie.
2026-07-12 21:14:05
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The Pottymouth Guru :
You can be responsible for bringing feedback with care. You can't be responsible for whether someone else's nervous system experiences it as safe. Healing often begins when both people stop trying to control each other's reactions and start working with them together. ❤️🤟🏻
2026-07-08 16:01:37
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Mrs. Sass | Sassquatch Press :
We both have RSD. One is actively working in therapy. The other is not. It’s hard.
2026-07-08 17:25:43
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dokidara :
As a person with a very recent RSD diagnosis who has been extremely defensive in the past, but has been working hard since diagnosis to improve my own skills and capacity, how do you recommend approaching repair or conversations with folks who experienced a more difficult/reactive/defensive prior version of you and reacted to you in kind (reactively/defensively/etc)? How can you start to initiate repair in a broken system?
2026-07-14 23:31:53
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Bethany :
This healing is hard 😥 Thank God my husband tries so hard to understand me. He researches how to help me. Got a good one. Bless his soul.
2026-07-12 15:12:51
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Kamal Elliott :
You can also be honest and genuine. I’d something is make or break for your relationship, say that even if it triggers them. Don’t say things like “I love you, I’m not going anywhere” before delivering feedback if that isn’t true. All it does is erode the trust and make the rsd worse because we can feel the lie.
2026-07-09 13:50:48
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Scott 🇨🇦 Auty Ursid :
My grade 1 report card was a big clue of what was missed in 1979: Scott melts down at both positive and negative feedback. Either one leads to panic. Even though I know and understand it now, a significant part of it is out of my hands. But that awareness means I get more opportunities to walk around the hole instead of falling in it.
2026-07-13 20:08:57
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𝕊𝕒𝕤𝕤𝕒𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕕𝕖𝕣 :
well shucks, this isn't on your Instagram yet - I was hoping to share it with my non-tt sister. will you kindly let me know when you get a chance to post there?
2026-07-08 18:31:04
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Lerxst :
Good stuff. I have a long history of RSD behavior, and I’m learning to handle very intense shame responses. This was quite encouraging! Thank you.
2026-07-10 12:52:24
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Tasha :
I freaking love your style of delivery and explanation of such complex concepts❤️✨ Thank you so much, I relate to so many topics you cover💕
2026-07-09 06:34:14
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whatever consciousness is :
real💔
2026-07-08 18:13:38
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Jordan Krueger :
Question??? Where???
2026-07-08 18:33:44
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jasper 🧡🤍🩷 :
my roommate has BPD and RSD. I am an AuDHD fawner. Very hard to navigate, very hard to figure out what is and isn’t my responsibility. I don’t know how to stop walking on eggshells and appeasing. It builds resentment that know she can feel. But I’m very afraid to address things that will trigger her because then it becomes a whole thing that I just don’t have the energy or capacity for…
2026-07-10 07:06:31
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Jenny Molina :
to be honest, my spouse has rsd, and I have to really consider what is worth bringing up. I learned to get a therapist and good friends, and I bring the majority of things to them. Sometimes it is just too much to ask them. They don't have the capacity.
2026-07-09 15:26:17
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BaylemCind :
But what about when it’s not some overarching conversation I want to have, the problem lies when I’m just like “hey could pick up your xyz” nicely and that alone is taken like I shot him. That’s where I’m at a loss.
2026-07-09 20:11:10
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Brooke Middleton32 :
what if you both have rsd and both of you are just now learning how to regulate instead of supress?
2026-07-09 02:49:20
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YoseMom :
What about in cases of parental estrangement (though actually parental alienation) when combined with RSD (thanks to AuDHD) and false accusations or scapegoating? I’m trying to figure this all out. I have RSD and AuDHD, am estranged from my son, his dad started the alienation through badmouthing of me 16 years ago, when our son was almost 14. So now some of the things my son is upset with me about aren’t things I even did! Yet I want to heal things so I need to validate his experience, but how do I do that when I’m being used as a scapegoat (per my therapist) and the accusations aren’t even based on facts
2026-07-09 12:18:07
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Jaz & Friends :
Thank you for this 💕 my partner just recently got diagnosed with ADHD and he said he’s working with a therapist on how to navigate his RSD. I’m autistic with trauma from an abusive family / household, so it’s def been a bit of a challenge at times, but this did help 🙌🏻
2026-07-08 16:52:29
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jojo_hughes :
what if your the adhd partner but the other (none adhd partner) is massively defensive. when he brings something to me I listen. I dont respond or reply I just listen because of this (it was something I had to learn young and continued through life). Then I look at my behaviour, change my behaviour, go back and say hey, I see what you said, im trying, doing my best, looking back now I understand why I reacted behaved that way and part of it was because of your behaviour at the time. You dont get to call me names in anger and expect me to sit there and listen to it and accept it, i did this because you put me in certain positions despite me requesting you not too.
2026-07-13 09:00:30
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