@elly.psychologist: Replaying an argument over and over usually means something about it genuinely didn't add up, not that you're overthinking for no reason. That mismatch often shows up when someone responds to a hurt you raised by rewriting what happened, minimising it, or denying it outright, offering a version that doesn't match your own memory at all. Faced with two conflicting accounts, it's tempting to believe theirs simply because it's delivered with such conviction, and that's precisely where self doubt takes hold. Instead of questioning the story you've just been handed, you turn the scrutiny on yourself. The way through isn't arguing harder or convincing yourself their version must be right. It's separating what actually happened, in plain, observable terms, from what you feel about it, and keeping both entirely apart from whatever explanation you were offered in the moment. Facts are what someone did, not what anyone said about what they did. Getting specific about behaviour, and about the feelings sitting underneath the self doubt, gives you something solid to stand on instead of endlessly replaying a conversation trying to make someone else's account fit your reality. Self doubt thrives on vague, shifting narratives, and it struggles against a clear, factual account of what actually took place. Staying grounded in both is what breaks the loop, because your body already knew the truth long before the self doubt started arguing otherwise Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #selfdoubt #doubt #overreacting #relationshipproblems #relationshiptok

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