@scott.austin.martin: The biggest problem in relationships isn't a lack of love. It's a lack of capacity. Most people think if someone loves them enough, they'll stay calm, communicate well, and repair after conflict. But that's not how human beings work. You can't access skills your nervous system doesn't have the capacity to use. A man can know exactly what to say and still become defensive. A woman can desperately want connection and still shut down. Not because they don't care. Because in that moment, their capacity collapsed. That's why information doesn't create transformation. Capacity does. Stop asking "What's wrong with me?" Start asking "What capacity was unavailable to me in that moment — and how do I build it?" Because your relationship will never consistently rise above the capacity of the two people inside it. Book link in bio. #relationships #nervoussystem #menscoach #relationshiptips #emotionalregulation

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