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Laura Kelley :
I am finding that my change is definitely being SEEN. Trust me, your actions speak louder than words. He will sense the shift. How he reacts to it is his choice.
2026-07-09 02:00:11
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Interior Design & Remodeling :
Can you talk about how to center yourself without falling into resentment? I am in the process, but sometimes, the reality that I’m the only one who’s going to look out for me is pretty depressing.
2026-07-09 17:10:26
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Styling with Sarah :
I’m decentering him…from Paris right now…LOL. It’s awesome!!
2026-07-09 04:06:48
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Christine | UGC :
“I need you think stop imposing your will on me and I need you to hold yourself accountable for your own happiness”
2026-07-09 02:01:09
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Just Roar :
It starts in small steps. I used to always get us a cup of tea after supper. Then for two nights in a row I did not make us tea. The third night I could tell he was trying to figure out what was going on. I pretended to read emails on my laptop. He went into the kitchen and made a pot of tea and then came and sat down. I could tell he was waiting for me to go and get us tea. I continued to check email. Finally he asked if I wanted tea. I said yes please. He was confused. 😆 slowly things began to change by just looking after myself.
2026-07-10 04:15:30
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IslandtimeNZ💛LS💛 :
I never said a word. But OMG my energy has shifted and he is taking a lot of notice!. So far very excellent results..😂😂
2026-07-09 03:48:32
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chelseaaa76505 :
Hiii. I’m a 21 year old women but I’ve noticed I already center my boyfriend in almost everything. Yesterday he decided he was going to cancel on his friend and invite me over instead because he wanted to stay in. He kept saying he would text his friend and let him know but he kept putting it off. I felt the urge to say many times “did you text ___ and let him know?” But I didn’t. That’s his mental load, not mine. Little things like that. Thank you for what you do❤️❤️
2026-07-12 14:48:20
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sun_rise_everyday :
I decentered him and told him we will only try to salvage the marriage in counselling because everything always blew up.
2026-07-10 18:04:49
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Sylvie Norris-Vezina :
Baby steps. Last night, pre made salad kits were on the menu. I made mine, left his in the fridge. Guess whose salad is still in the fridge? His. I guess he didn’t want salad, or expected I’d prep it for him.
2026-08-02 11:48:17
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DiscussionsWithAMom :
Learning to decenter that man.. and centering myself was the best practice I could do!
2026-07-09 23:14:35
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Jenny :
I feel like I have done a lot of this work, but I just noticed I am slipping back into some old habits, how do you keep it going.
2026-08-05 15:48:45
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none :
not explaining myself anymore or asking for his permission or approval. love this for some boundaries.
2026-07-09 12:15:14
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user6057234577503 :
You are so articulate
2026-07-09 04:18:04
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Alli :
oh damn, every episode is so insightful. You are so right about acting without explaining yourself. I really appreciate this series.
2026-07-09 06:41:04
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RebelYeller :
always move in silence.
2026-07-09 18:49:46
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Moist 🤏🏽 :
Hi Kelley do you do stories of content woman who have stayed one and done
2026-07-10 16:23:34
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Darling 🇨🇦 🐙🏴☠️🏳️⚧️ :
Ohmygoodness. I just realized I do this to authority. I knew it was a little odd, asking them unnecessary questions, engaging unnecessarily… oh ffs allllll the things we do 🤦♀️🤣
2026-07-09 21:28:38
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Boy mom :
I’m wondering how you kept yourself from getting pulled back in. I feel like I’ve been working on this for years and every time I get to a certain point my nervous system freaks out and starts focusing on him again. My husband is more avoidant so he would love for me to decenter him if that makes sense.
2026-07-13 16:31:42
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IslandtimeNZ💛LS💛 :
I choose myself now. Its pretty simple it turns out once you make the break. The beginning was the hardest. Not anymore 💛
2026-07-09 03:49:51
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serving_conti :
I don’t even think I realized I was decentering him until it was happening, I just desperately had to heal myself.
2026-07-12 03:52:46
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O’Hanson the Reaper :
if you’re about to center another person, chances are you’re about to outsource your ‘thinking’ to them. it’s a common habit to survive circumstances such as an authoritarian framework, if you believe that person is ‘bigger’ than you, or in the presence of assumed mastery. thinking for yourself can feel like holding onto secrets and secrets may not feel good around someone you also believe can overpower you. have some grace as it takes practice unlearning how NOT to pull on someone else’s authority by default.
2026-07-09 00:19:44
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Tatianushka 🇸🇰 🇪🇺 :
May I ask do you have children? I do, and have slowly started to do this, but with children it sometimes gets really complicated and could get unfair to them
2026-07-14 21:08:19
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Fluent in Sarcasm 1979 :
I started this a few years ago. stopped being the project manager of the house, stopped cooking if I didn't feel like it, buy groceries etc on my timeline, started taking trips without him, no longer over thinking/planning every little detail
2026-08-30 13:25:21
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pammybear83 :
I just told my husband how it was going to be. I’m no longer doing your laundry, cleaning up after you or cooking every night. You are retired, I am retired, I am not the domestic servant. That was how I started. He wouldn’t even understand what decentering is. Now I have expanded the decentering and there is no argument. I am not responsible for his happiness.
2026-08-06 21:00:33
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Biker Witch :
It’s been this way for eons so men honestly don’t even realize they are doing it. If you tell them your plans, they will probably think you are just making up something and will blame feminism.
2026-07-20 15:23:39
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