@jimmyonrelationships: Forgiveness doesn’t mean access #forgiveness #relationshipadvice101

Brenda Lee Song :

I wish toxic people can hear and understand this message. This message resonates with me. It’s not enough just to say sorry and keep doing the hurtful behaviors on repeat

Lourdes Diaz :

After all that how long to wait for change???

isabel8727 :

Agree 100%. I have forgiven. It’s been 6 years and still working on Reconciliation. Actions=Changed behavior

Crystal Evans :

Exactly. I forgive my adult kids for a lot of things they put me through but I don't want them back.

X.mentos.X :

I’m a big fan of the mindset of “everyone deserves a shot at redemption, and redemption doesn’t mean a second chance

Elle Vicini | Inner Peace :

I used to believe being a "good person" meant always giving people another chance. If I had forgiven them, I thought I had to let them back in. But every time I did, my nervous system paid the price. I found myself walking on eggshells, questioning my intuition, and recovering from the same wounds over and over. i learned that forgiveness is releasing the need to carry resentment. Reconciliation is earned through changed behavior. Those are two completely different things. Today I can genuinely wish someone healing... while also knowing they no longer belong in my life. And that has been one of the most peaceful lessons I've ever learned

Chubtoaster♾️ :

In other words: There is a difference between forgiveness and trust

Andrea Goodmin :

Actions definitely speak louder than just words

Christie :

Changed behavior..,repair & rebuild

joestaysathome :

I needed to hear this

thetalkingstage :

Agreed!

Jeff Luchun :

When I would ask, she wouldn’t even give an example.

fallinwstars :

why do i struggle with forgiving so much

Crissy Brown42 :

Amen! i have forgiven the people who hurt me as a child but i don't allow them access to me because there has not been reconciliation.

Cecil Sherwood :

That’s true but not when your ghosted, only communicated with when they need something.

cathybarker :

Amen

SFHutch81 :

So if there is no perspective, there can’t be reconciliation?

friendofYahuah :

yes

VaVa Voom :

Thank you ❤️

colleenparker56 :

I love your post, this is by far the most helpful one you have posted. Thank you so much for these posts, they are making a positive difference in many people's lives.🤗

Disney Mama :

As a self diagnosed INFJ, there is no reconciliation. It’s acceptance in your actions and my dismissal from a relationship.

d_marino26 :

💖 :

I think that's what i need to learn, to allow their actions to have consequences, and not run quickly to repair for safety.

Jenzerama 🇨🇦 :

sorry, from personal experience...if it involves cheating it WILL happen against. Forgive and end the relationship.

Naelle :

Yes I forgave and they wanted instant constant access and when that wasn’t given they triangulated and would ignore me or just be mean when the issue I brought up was them saying mean things they are now just weird and the “sorry” clearly meant nothing, there was clearly no accountability taken!