@burned_notbroken: Replying to @Ahmed there is no “normal” to back to. Only new and safer and healthier! #burnedoutpursuer #relationshipburnout #emotionalsafety #relationshiprepair #relationshiptips

xandi :

I don’t wanna go back. Because I’m not the same man anymore. And I won’t be. That’s what pushed her out the door. I want to rebuild. Rebuild something new. Something better. Something safer. Something whole. To be a REAL partner to them. Someone safe, dependable, consistent and stable.

CrashNOveride :

As someone who has been burnt out repeatedly. Show change and be consistent. actions need to reflect your words. they gave you a part of them that you showed d8dnt matter to them. you are working in a deficit so you have to work up to 0 then build up from there

Liz :

I asked my ex husband if he wanted to go back to dating and rebuild from the ground up. He said that if we have to do that, we’re already too broken and there’s no point.

PokéD_HitS_ :

Hi, I recently ended a five-year relationship with someone I deeply love. My ex-partner told me that she still loves me and sees a future with me, but that she needs to be on her own and figure out who she is outside of the relationship. I’m struggling with a lot of grief, uncertainty, and the feeling that our relationship ended before we truly gave it a final chance. I’m trying to understand my own patterns, take responsibility for the things I could have done differently, and also learn how to respect her need for space while finding my own clarity. I was wondering if you have any advice on which of your journals or resources would be most helpful for someone in my situation. I’m not looking for a quick fix, but rather a way to reflect, grow, and understand myself better. Thank you for creating resources around these topics. It means a lot to find something that feels relevant during a difficult time.

G :

YEARS

nini :

my now ex boyfriend broke up, i broke up with him but i regret it and he told me he wanted to see an emotional growth within me, what do i need to do to rebuild that relationship, or do i just need to give him space?

edamameandlemonade :

Are there levels to this? Meaning let’s say as soon as we caught the burnout like a month in we went on a break. Does that mean it’s easier to get this version of them back(

izo.zm :

We’ve been talking for 2 months post break up, he doesn’t belive I love him, and plus it was long distance. Last night we were talking and I messed up with my words, and I feel like all the progress that I had made just went out the window. What do I do?

Romeo_ :

🫂 :

What if the person who’s burnt out is in contact with you but very inconsistently. Some weeks they call everyday and then the next they don’t call at all. How do you not take it personally and like they no longer want to try with you?

namorcris :

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago. I made some mistakes, but I have left him alone and gave space after he told me he’s not kicking me out of his life. Yesterday after trying to get clarity and reconcile even as friends, he said, “I think we both need to move on with our lives separately now”. Please help me 😞😞😞

tit tat tarot :

I love this. From my perspective I would never be comfortable to behave in any way shape or form like I did before, because in my soul I associate the giving as an opening to be taken advantage of and for things to go backwards. I would never have dinner ready for him when he walks in the door, I would never be the one to run up to him to give a hug or kiss. I would never message him with anything but professional responses. Anything else is the old me and he doesn’t get to experience that part ever again.

Lpg786 :

Oh god when he said to me “when are things going to go back to normal?” 😡🤬 … when you used me as your personal chew toy and not a human who needed reciprocation… no thanks! I need someone who reassures me and gives to me too!

izo.zm :

What if we’ve been talking g for 2 months but he has the fears you say but I messed up with something I said and I hurt him. And now I’m scared of loosing him bc I’ve worked so hard to get him back, maybe pressuring him a bit too much , which k shouldn’t have. But still, after what happened yesterday he said he feels us growing apart and that we’ve lost what we had, now he was upset but how do I prevent that from happening? From us growing apart ? From loosing what we had? He’s still tal lo g tk me but very cold

Lori Schneider421 :

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