@merrykennedy647: You keep ending up disappointed in good partners. Not bad ones. Decent, present, trying ones — and still, something feels short. You assume it means they're not enough, or that you're simply too much. Before you rebuild your whole standard, look at the expectation you were handed. You may be running a perfectly good relationship on an impossible spec. You were sold an impossible job description and told to call it love. The myth runs deeper than one bad match. For most of history a partner was one part of a wide web — family, community, faith, friends. Modern romance collapsed all of that into a single person. Now one human is supposed to be your lover, best friend, therapist, co-founder and home. No individual can carry the full weight of needs that used to be shared by a village. The bar didn't get higher. It got impossible. Expecting less from love isn't the lesson here. It's a reason to stop expecting one person to be everything love used to come with. When all your needs point at one person, even a great partner becomes a constant shortfall. You experience their human limits as a personal betrayal. The chronic disappointment often isn't a partner failing. It's a structure failing — too much demand aimed at a single source. Rebuild the web. Friends, work, meaning, community each carrying their share. Then the relationship gets to be a relationship, not an entire life-support system. Love doesn't survive by being everything. It survives the moment you stop demanding that it be.

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