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jpaulamaki :
Very different experience both when you're doing the validation and being validated. I have effectively three relationships with three very different people and understanding how to validate feelings has been very much a key to making things work.
2026-07-10 18:35:16
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hormonalmama :
These are great tips sharing yes
2026-07-10 19:32:00
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matty kitkat :
This is what I need
2026-07-10 21:14:30
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Amy T :
Thank you thank you thank you!!! 🩷🩷
2026-07-10 01:04:58
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Vickielynn16 :
Acknowledging and empathizing is generally what’s needed. At least for me.
2026-07-10 03:45:30
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lightworker@1111 :
Very good interpretation
2026-07-10 09:54:50
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No❤️ :
I'm struggling so often to even give validation, to say "I see why you feel that way" or "I can understand how you got there" because a lot of times I CANT !! he'll feel one way one day, then completely different, move the goalposts of what my behavior should and shouldn't be, etc that I can't even say "I get it"
2026-07-10 00:45:04
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The Pottymouth Guru :
One thing I wish more couples understood is that validating someone's experience doesn't automatically mean agreeing with their interpretation. Those are two very different skills, and confusing them creates a LOT of defensiveness. ❤️🤟🏻🌿
2026-07-09 23:51:38
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lyddybb :
In your explanation Validation sounds like "sorry you feel that way"
2026-07-10 05:52:41
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Polished Perspective 🇨🇦 :
Yes! Exactly. Now, what do we do when the other person interprets your validation as agreement and brings that up later? ie "well you even agreed... Make up your mind, am I right or not"
2026-07-10 13:15:53
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Little Dance :
Hallelujah!!! 😅
2026-07-10 12:30:25
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Did you see the email :
Except that sometimes nobody understands how you got there or understands why you feel what you are feeling.
2026-07-10 11:45:33
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Chris Wendels :
Is the point just saying you understood and stating their feelings are valid, regardless of if you do understand why/how or if you can follow their thought process? It feels disingenuous, but I'm struggling with this, so I'll try anything at this point.
2026-07-10 08:57:01
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Sassy_pants1558 :
Now if the other person had the capacity to understand that concept we might get somewhere 🤔
2026-07-10 09:12:59
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Cheryl :
Aside from being so eloquent, U R a genius at DELIVERY. Doesn’t hurt that U R a GORGEOUS fairy princess either 🥰
2026-07-10 03:17:26
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BigOlive90 :
Literally what I tried to explain to my ex for years
2026-07-10 02:52:47
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Tammia :
Same reason why my son and I struggle. Communication and understanding
2026-07-10 15:42:44
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The Pottymouth Guru :
@AJ Smith This is in response to your comment but I wasn’t able to do a video response. This may or may not resonate. 🙂
2026-07-09 23:54:25
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Antifascist Barbarian :
This is me and my spouse every. Single. Time.
2026-07-10 07:33:43
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perry_wina :
And just because you’re validating your partner, doesn’t mean you’re invalidating yourself!
2026-07-10 17:21:08
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RavensHollowTrinkets :
Thank you, I have been struggling with some family stuff recently and this has really helped shift my perspective on those issues
2026-07-10 08:32:06
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undefinable human :
I’ve tried it before got told I was being a liar, but also usually when I have a disagreement it’s because I don’t believe their logic. It doesn’t make any sense to me so I’d much rather have them upset than lie to them in the first place.
2026-07-10 21:33:36
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🦋🌼 :
You used the word “intent” in the example, and I was stupid to send it. All he got from the video was “he should talk only about his intent, and me talking about his impact is proving my wrong perspective, so I'm the villain “. Never again will I share another video.
2026-07-10 18:34:09
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Jos Vanden Abeele :
I would love for you to talk about validation and defensiveness in regards to being in a relationship with a partner with bpd. I'm struggling to validate every trigger my partner has, especially when they'll feel rejected everytime I try to stand ground and don't agree with their pov.
2026-07-10 08:36:36
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2026-07-10 16:57:37
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