@carly.blake: #avoidant #avoidantattachmentstyle #fyp #texting #relationshiptips

Cole :

I really tried but it was outside of my own control.. so i let them go

Thebuffjcole :

Wish I saw this before. It wouldn't have mattered if I said them anyways though.

Lycan :

Rule 1 of deal with an avoidant. Don't.

Alexandra Marietta :

It’s tricky though because I’m not one to reply to texts right away, I’m too everywhere in my day and I don’t use my phone at work unless it’s for work, so even if I see a text it’s either replied to very quickly or I tell myself I’ll reply as soon as I can’t and then I forget and it’s been a week. I look forward to plans made but when it’s too far ahead the excitement is within the first few days and when we finally reach that day so much has happened in between I usually have to cancel , I’m overwhelmed , I’m tired, I’m trying to choose myself and give myself a break and to just be lazy and even there I feel guilty because I have friend to keep up with, family to keep up with, a relationship to keep up with, motherhood to keep up with and a job that drains my energy. It’s just hard to keep up sometimes so in my point of view, if you’ve been my friend for years and we’ve built that relationship where I can just be myself with you and. suddenly life shifts and we’re busier and quieter, I’m not giving up on you just because not quick go reply or commit anymore. That’s my take. Unless they are literally being mean to you and making you feel like they hate you fine leave them, but if they just aren’t meeting up with your expectations because you want more attention that they can’t give you at this time in their life and you can’t see that and respect that and take their quiet and distance as a way of being present and available in a less physical way but still appreciate them in your life no matter how little times it feels then is it true friendship? We all go through our own chapters of life, expecting everyone to be in the same page and paragraph as you is selfish. There’s two ways of looking at these messages and what you’re implying. But I guess I’d rather be patient and forgiving than put pressure on others. I mean at the end of the day you can just stop messaging them and let the universe do its thing or you care enough to keep contact. But not all this reverse psychology stuff lol

MiMi✨ :

I’m an avoidant and anxious attachment. But I do be the one sending those texts..🤷‍♀️

3mi1s :

He didn’t even give me the chance to say those things he just left and hoped that I would understand why.

Alena :

I would need self respect for that

NVEY :

She said she’ll give me a son one day, then went ghost for 6 weeks lol

Colt_Hikes_The_World :

Had to rely heavily on #1 recently and I’m a wreck over it, but I will recover and be better for it.

D€€𓆩♡𓆪❀ :

I will give u space buh I won't accept feeling ignored

Steph :

I’m still healing from an avoidant attachment from a 4 year cycle trust if ur reading this and still going through it it’s not worth the continuous cycle

JT :

This feels like a trap tho

Via Zipp :

I did this and they ghosted me

Just_Rob :

Love this!

𝓜𝓔𝓜𝓔𝓝𝓣𝓞 𝓐𝓜𝓞𝓡𝓘𝓢💜 :

Damien Euell :

SleepyakaScoop :

How about send nothing and leave them be

ziskiii💵 :

I told him about how the way he handled things hurt me and he continued to do it so I’m done

nik :

😂😂😂

TV🇩🇪💯 :

💯💯💯

Alicia :

🔥🔥🔥

A L I C I A ❤️‍🔥 :

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