Opallauryn
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huney :
if you don't know someone is enthusiastic, stop
2026-07-10 23:15:10
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Diary of a Feral Woman :
he didnt say any of that. he was respectful and have her the choice.
2026-07-10 13:49:45
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Ali: Beauty Biz Website Audits :
what did I miss? algorithm giving me whiplash... where did I land? 🙀
2026-07-10 20:29:49
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Tekla :
Exactly!!!
2026-07-10 16:19:48
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Tekla :
Exactly!!!
2026-07-10 16:19:56
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Vern! :
When did objectifying another human being become something laudable as long as you are “upfront and honest” about it?
2026-07-10 18:24:56
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Brandy :
Unless you are in a relationship/dynamic that includes “consent by appointment”, this is coercive as hell. Even in those dynamics, the individual consenting has the ability to remove that consent at ANY time. As soon as you tell someone they HAVE to consent in advance without appropriate conversations first, you are in the wrong. Full Stop. Consent is ongoing, enthusiastically given, and able to be revoked or denied at any time. She’s known him for 5 minutes and already told him she isn’t comfortable yet. This isn’t communication, it’s manipulation.
2026-07-10 17:38:47
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Patricia Hayes346 :
Anything other than an enthusiastic yes is a no
2026-07-10 17:05:02
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Celestial :
i said it was predatory and coercive and people called me every name under the sun and told me i was stupid 💀💀💀
2026-07-10 21:12:54
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ghibligirli :
agreed! it's not bad to ask but its bad to treat someone like they are worth nothing whilst asking....like why go through the charade of a date if you can just write it on your bio and go about your day
2026-07-10 16:41:42
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Nat :
This isn’t even the bare minimum of asking consent because it was coercive
2026-07-10 17:00:59
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CeCe Marie :
It’s what manipulation and ultimatums look like, also everyone is skipping the part where she said she was uncomfortable which he knew and still proceeded to send her a voice note. If it’s not a clear yes it’s always a no in my book.
2026-07-10 21:46:44
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Líza in Paris :
I think that he’s just showing you who he is and what he’s interested in. If you’re not aligned… NEXT!!
2026-07-11 10:32:36
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StayMad :
People do not have to communicate in a way that’s acceptable to you. Some people prefer his style of communication! If you don’t, you’re clearly not compatible, so move on
2026-07-11 06:42:41
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AB_Sad :
You’ve been saying opposite for decades.
2026-07-10 17:11:01
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jay Bee :
Aye he was honest, I would have done the same
2026-07-10 19:07:49
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Abby :
I needed this after my fyp showed me a video this morning where the person (man) was saying you’re abnormal if you don’t have sex by 3 dates because “that’s been the norm since poodle skirt 50’s” as well as implying that sex was mandatory in getting to know someone. Your take is much more balanced and insightful in my opinion.
2026-07-10 21:14:53
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nataliecontesini :
I don’t think sex should be transactional like this
2026-07-11 00:00:03
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des🪷🫧 :
EXACTLY! That’s not how you ask for consent at tf all.
2026-07-10 22:08:04
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Shane :
Glad I made it back to intelligent conversations regarding this. The start of the memo was a little cringe but was decent not perfect but bearable. The ending very much had a carrot on a stick / coercive vibe to it. A simple clarification after being asked to her place and what that entailed was enough. She made it clear that was not her intention. A simple I don’t feel we align if you wish to get to know each other at a later time you have my number.
2026-07-11 00:13:29
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maskedangel91 :
have to disagree sorry, he was up front setting the expectations for what he is looking for in a relationship. that is respecting both parties time and intelligence. why would she want to waste her or his time if she is not also looking for the same type or relationship?
2026-07-10 17:42:06
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Hannah :
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
2026-07-10 15:34:36
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redpandaland99 :
💯💯
2026-07-11 12:37:54
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Fly :
That voice memo is a big tell that that man is bad at sex
2026-07-10 17:51:01
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Steadydietofworms :
That’s what it boils down to. Soooo many people are saying “it’s ok for him to value sex! It’s ok for him to be upfront about his expectations” and sure. But the expectations show extreme entitlement to sex and to a woman’s body- it shows he does not feel the weight of what women risk when having hetero sex bc a man who takes that seriously is willing to be patient and wait for a woman he wants to be with to be ready/learn that he is safe and reliable enough for her to want to do it despite the risks she assumes. That he doesn’t seem to care that she’s not enthusiastic about it is another indicator
2026-07-10 16:17:06
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