@xxninjadragonmasterxx: giving space or "cooling off" in relationships #fyp #xxninjadragonmasterxx #bluefont #viral #creatorsearchinsights

yan :

this is so beautiful. i have anxious attachment and always view space as an evidence of the absence of love. but growing in my current relationship made me realize the importance of space. to reflect, to internalize, and find the importance of the relationship within yourself. thank you for this! lovely way to put this concept! 💗

Toptop :

does that mean in a ldr set up total no comms na? 2days na nyan okay yun? update din wala as in no chat…

laurie :

pano po kapag 10 months na

️ :

i wish i understood that before ruining the only thing i've ever wanted

Yana :

Very well said. Cooling off doesn’t mean the end, it simply means find urself and go back when everything’s clear to survive the “we”.

SONSON :

crazy timing

rere’s.wrld :

: Bruh no space doesn’t exist ppl use the space to hurt ur feelings it’s not worth it if someone ask for space and it’s longer than a few days just let go

yuki 🥝⁺◟˚ :

i think giving space or having a cooling off can help a relationship. before me and my boyfriend became official, we had a one-month cooling off because i wanted him to have time for himself and enjoy other things too. after that, we talked again, and i think it made our relationship better. for me, giving each other space is good as long as there is trust and honest communication. now, we are 1 year and 15 months together and still counting. ^ ^

franz :

“the silence between the notes is what creates the melody” - one of the most realest thing ive heard recently. (im stealing this)

ju ✨ :

thank you so much for this :( i really think this is what we need rn bcoz we are hurting each other now :( we're not fulfilling each other's emotional needs :(

Angel 🪽 :

The timing

Chelsea Browne :

What if the space has been 10 days 😩

eidelynne :

is this something similar to the show friends where Ross and Rachel fought because "they were on a break"? As Ross misunderstood it as they broke up, meanwhile Rachel thought of it as having a "break", which means cooling off, giving them time to think and reflect on what they did but aren't officially broken up?

Yanna :

can't send this to him, idk if we really broke up without me knowing or agreeing. but I'm giving him the space he needs, I hope, i hope he misses me and comes back.

𝔈𝔩𝔦𝔰𝔥𝔞 :

How much space do we need though?

lovelorn :

well said, ninja! mahirap hanapin ang solusyon sa isang problema nang hindi iniisa-isa ang detalye ng sakuna. Mainam nang iresolba nang nakatingin ng malayo sa problema, kaysa sa pilit itong ayusin habang nakayapak sa sanhi ng mismong suliranin.

harbkat :

u are my goat

cube :

ay nakatulog

Nibaaaar :

⃟ :

Someone once said "𝑮𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆, 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒃𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒂𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒖𝒑 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎."

lofu :

i hope we'll be okay.

kat :

Currently me and my gf. I know we are both sweethearts for each other and that the love we have is genuine but honestly, cool off is what we need right now. Not a break free from the relationship but just to pause and let things settle first. Because these past few weeks or even months, we haven't really been viewing things at an equivalent wavelength, and even if we try to communicate, it does get better but it somehow became a cycle. So I do think this pause is what we both need for us to fix things better and be a better partner for each other.

𝒅𝒐𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒚 :

when we argue, we (most of the time, him) always try to ask for a little space when our heads is spiraling and circling back n forth in the same point na hindi maexplajn or maintindihan ng maayos. After the “me time” or space for a few hours or minutes, we come back running to our partner and fix the problem, now with calmer minds. As a gurl with anxious attachment, it’s really hard at first because I feel like he will leave me after the space. i was scared that he might find peace without me, resulting for him to might leave. But no, he proved that space just gives him a breather, and it actually works for me too.

EndLess :

i give so much space the problem is they dont tell me. I'm left to wonder if they just need space or if they're doing it on purpose. I've grown up to think silence is punishment and I can't really change my ways I've asked them to tell me, warn me that they need space to breathe but I'm given nothing three years and I've only been holding up because we see eachother every day and now, we don't. so i have no clue as to why they feel this way because they don't want to message me.

sophia💐 :

the space really hurts when we’re going to different boarding schools soon and wont be able to see or talk for a long time😒 also hurts when hes usually so eager to ttm💔