@jia_yaps: he’s a predator BYE #survivor #WomenOfTikTok

Joseph :

Thanks for spreading this message. It's important to hear.

eyeseeup3 :

What happened to courtship

cooluser94 :

oatflatwhite :

ha :

First

Ceiba tree consulting :

My ex husband talked/s that way to me all the time and I used to believe I wasn’t good enough and needed to try harder. Now I just blink at him and use a soft voice like Im talking to a 5yo

Galen Mckenna :

This is an insane reach

Adam Johannesson :

😢😢😢

girlbosshustlebabe :

Yes. I can’t believe the number of pick me women who are trying to defend that nonsense. The voice memo wasn’t sex positive, it was dehumanizing

N :

He basically said if we aren’t having sex you’re not worth my time, he just used a bunch of buzz words to make it seem like he’s thinking intentionally.

Sara Moon🌙|Halloween & Disney :

if you listen to the message they had already talked about that and she had alreadysaid no to having sex with him this message was just him trying to coerce her into having sex. he was Major red flags 🚩

Rene :

Thank you for your comments! I appreciate it so much. There are so many women and men defending the guy by saying, “At least he is honest.” First, he was rapey because Consent can be revoked at any time. Second, he said to her that she was uncomfortable having s** with him on the first date. So s** was an issue already discussed and he is sending her that voicemail that same night. Disgusting. Third, being “honest” about being a bad guy is not a compliment. If on the same night as my first date with a stranger, I leave him a message stating, “You need to spend $3K on me to see if we are financially compatible or else there is no point in us meeting,” no person would praise me by saying, “hey! She is being honest.” I’d be (rightfully) called names. The way this man is defended as “honest” or “telling it like it is” reminds me of the Orange Man in the White House who has a history of horrific and sociopathic behavior.

Diana Ramos :

The father of my child negs me basically saying he won’t come to see our child if he doesn’t get to have sex with me while he’s in town… saying there’s no point to come

Laila :

Your comparison to borrowing a car is afalse. A car is an object one person lends to another.Mutual sex is an activity two adults can both want and participate in. Again, female desire completely disappears from your analysis. You are allowed to find his tone unpleasant and to block him. But saying you would call the police, claiming he enjoys coercion, and suggesting this voicemail indicates he might kill her during sex are enormous accusations that the actual message does not support. Your past explains why you hear danger in it, but it does not prove your interpretation of his intentions.

That_Green_7.3 :

omg you know there are women out there that just want sex right? and communicate that very clearly and similarly to this dude so why is it okay for women to communicate what they want clearly but not for a dude?

soggy bread :

no literally cause his whole memo sounded like a argument or a negotiation. "you agree that people should be sexually compatible right? You agree we should get to know each other deeply right? I value that deepness a lot and don't you want to have a deep serious relationship? You know people only invite each other too their house to have sex right So isn't that why you're asking me over? it would be quite pointless for you to invite me if not for sex right? now I know I already agreed to a second date but looking at everything I brought up before it makes sense that I don't want to continue this date without sex" 😐

HoneyBadger :

My ex (RIP) was like if I don’t get sex I can’t be emotionally available. I planned on leaving and he committed suicide

Kiwi life :

Was your ex white?