@matthiasjbarker: Even if your part in the conflict was only 2%, it's worth owning that piece. Not because you're taking the blame for everything, but because naming your own contribution is what smooths the whole conversation out. When you go looking for your part and actually hope you find some, you walk in as someone repairing instead of someone building a case. That small bit of ownership does more to open a parent up than building a perfect case of everything they did wrong. If you're trying to reopen a conversation with a parent or family member and it keeps stalling out, that's exactly the ground my free workshop Navigating the Divide covers: how to approach repair in a way that lowers the defenses instead of raising them, and how to hold your peace even if they don't meet you halfway. Link in bio!

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