Brenna Pérez
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Carmen 📺🎮 :
genuine question: who would legitimately feel pressured to continue with having the second date if they received a voice memo like this? because if feels like an extremely easy "ok, see you never" to me.
2026-07-12 09:18:55
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Chronically Me :
Can we also talk about the fact that you can't preplan consent?
2026-07-12 03:33:21
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Razorbackbelle42 :
Consent is a conversation. Not a monologue.
2026-07-12 05:08:24
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🐽 :
This might be the WORST take oat
2026-07-13 08:19:46
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Cafeconlexhe :
This honeslty remember me why in college we are pushing for F.R.I.E.S wit consent: Freely Given, Revocable, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific. Emphasis on Revocable
2026-07-12 01:01:10
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Bristol :
“Don’t use your dealbreaker as leverage!” BINGO
2026-07-12 04:56:55
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caine :
If this is a dealbreaker, don't wait until you're planning a second date to reveal that the relationship depends on it.
2026-07-12 05:03:49
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t :
I see both sides tbh
2026-07-13 08:03:50
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DJ :
I usually agree with you but this is setting a boundary. it was not very polite of him but he was just like, this is what I want if you don't that's fine but I'm not interested in continuing. the only issue with this was that she released his voicemail to the Internet without his consent which is major red flag behavior
2026-07-12 14:41:52
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Nowthing :
I just listened to the voice memo and it probably could've been worded better, but like I didn't hear one ounce of coercion in there. he let her decide whether she wanted to continue the relationship, he stated what he was interested in, and he did it through a safe method, so where's the issue?
2026-07-13 04:25:34
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becka jean :
we’re hearing a voice memo. there’s no other context (that i know of). we don’t know how the first date went or what was planned for the second. i feel like we’re over analyzing a voice memo. he could have put it in a text, he didn’t. he actually voiced it out loud. it’s a 2nd date, not a marriage proposal. i’m sorry, as tacky and cringe worthy as it may be, he said what he was looking for and let her decide if she was ready or not. cut your loss and move on.
2026-07-12 06:56:48
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shortlover59x :
it's not a boundary either, boundaries are self imposed and self enforced. they are not used to change a behavior or influence a behavior/ decision of another person. that's an ultimatum and a form of pressure applied coercive control.
2026-07-12 01:45:53
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poundsand :
He’s not looking to waste time and doesn’t want to hang out with her if that’s the goal. No one is forcing anyone to do anything. Everyone would like a guarantee for what they invest , be it Time, money etc. not everyone gets a guarantee . Each of us is free to choose to invest or not. In this case not.
2026-07-12 00:35:50
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jam and nutter :
Ive had literal job offers with more flexibility in their expectations than that man had about his expectations of a relationship
2026-07-12 02:36:09
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likhomzondo5 :
They're not asking for consent they're asking for a future safety net.
2026-07-12 00:29:56
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iAbbati_ :
How is this different from saying if he doesn’t bring flowers on the first date I don’t want to continue.
2026-07-12 08:42:34
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ShaunyHendrix :
some people have shorter time spans and that is fine... but if it is not compatible then thats okay. move on .. you don't have to. if I feel rushed I'll cut ties right then and there. plain and simple
2026-07-13 07:33:31
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Phatboy :
sounds like you are assuming intentions on his part.
2026-07-12 14:17:18
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seancruz790 :
Your definition of guaranteed is also irrational wrong saying if I’m coming over that would be for the purpose does that mean it can’t be taken away so the point was to get on the same page not a written contract
2026-07-12 04:03:58
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averywarrick7 :
The problem with what you’re saying is that you’re from the pov that she has to go on the date, she does not have to go on the date
2026-07-12 20:59:07
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TySoaren :
"weaponized boundaries" implies there was some kind of negative outcome. this was the second date. it's not like he was threatening to end a year long relationship. the only "negative outcome" was deciding to go their separate ways.
2026-07-12 05:20:43
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Elizabeth Bryant :
he was communicating what hes looking for and not wasting either persons time.
2026-07-12 12:04:36
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Brennan / “R” :
how is it MORE healthy to have a secret criterion that you don’t tell someone and then break up with them over without ever having actually communicated it??? WOW
2026-07-12 02:41:10
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gloom and how it gets that way :
Person said ‘I dunno about that’. He said ‘well if that’s not the case, I’m not interested’. How is this coercive?
2026-07-12 10:29:58
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