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Naelle :

Yes the constant criticism feels like I’m being evaluated n walking on eggshells I was criticized for my breathing like 😳 it was framed as concern tho

shes_gracious :

you nailed it....toxic and dysfunctional relationships wreck havoc on our nervous system. my system only craves peaceful, calm and safe environment.

🌻🌞Molly🌞🌻 :

Sending this to my partner—he says “that’s just how I am” with his hot and cold behavior, plus the silent withdrawal. He needs to realize how hurtful this is.

Essi Mc :

I’ve been the hot and cold one before and also been of the receiving end. When I’ve been the hot n cold one it is because when I’ve been warm and welcoming to someone because I’ve been accommodating ( maybe too much) and depending on the person they then start to overwhelm me or want to take my energy or I feel In starting to lose my grounding all because they want my energy or me to be available all the time , so sometimes going colder ( not completely cold) but just pulling back is a way to show them to not take so much, sometimes ppl need to see they’re wanting too much of your attention or to always be accessible when you’re just friends or acquaintances ( I’ve also been that needy person)- this is just a perspective I’ve noticed - if someone is my partner or lover than yes perhaps more attention but until then - everyone has different limits

shannonwalkinginsunshine :

#3. Trauma response

k8h3l3n :

Being constantly criticized or commented on for suuuure! It makes you feel like you’re always being watched and it’s kinda creepy! Also, people who repeatedly overstep my boundaries when I say I will reach out next week or when I can etc and they genuinely don’t hear me or listen to me and choose to override what I’m telling them, especially on more than 3 occasions in a ROW - my nervous system gets SO stressed out when people don’t hear me/respect my boundaries that I just ghost them.

maryk8svideodiary :

Invalidation via changing the reality literally makes us go insane

Nastia✨ :

My nervous system is already hijacked, so it can’t get any worse. Silence is my companion, but I need an answer 🤌🏼

whatever :

I lose interest in hot and cold men

M❤️‍🔥 :

The hot and cold behavior is exactly how you described DETRIMENTAL, I have never felt more anxiety in my life

lori :

During my healing journey I’ve come to realize about the hot and cold I allowed from people. Setting my boundaries I will no longer entertain that behavior. I also have an anxious attachment style, which I am learning with my triggers and how to calm my nervous system. I definitely do not appreciate when people walk away in silence and not wanting to repair or even just say to give them some time to think and re-organize their thoughts, and then we can talk. The people I do appreciate in my life are the ones that communicate with me

Healing Out Loud 🦋✨⚖️🤎 :

Agreed 10000%

guardedwisdom :

So informative, thank you 🙏🏼

Holistic Mental Health Ed :

You are so correct. I just experienced this last weekend.

missmefirst101 :

Julie :

only expirience the hot and cold treatment and I'm still missing him knowing it won't get anywhere :(

Bryan :

The 1st is iffy cause people mood swings change

Itsjustjels :

Experiencing this right now

homelochino :

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kimulmer31 :

💯

JeepChicAussieMomma :

I have 2 people in my life that were supposed to be my closest contacts & they both did this.

Victor M Schrager :

I’ve dealt with this. People who are insecure do this to secure & confident people to bring them down to their level. It’s massively f**ked up.

sarahmullholand55 :

I explained and tried for years. Now yes I absolutely do pull back and go silent for my own damn sanity.

Shelia Jackson :

He does all 3..

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