@midlifewithmeaning: What to say instead of giving advice #midlifewomen #momsover40 #support #parenting #adultchildren

Tara :

Yes yes yes! Mom of 2 launching young adults... It's so hard but yet so easy b

User_o_24601 :

What do we do if we have hurt feelings about how often we talk when they live far away

Julie Wasyluk :

Wow so good

Glendale Girl :

My daughter gave me an “I am sorry that happened to you”. After I texted her a picture of 2nd grade. Those were the days.

Sarah Moran :

I am so guilty of trying to fix and feeling overwhelmed

linda59 :

My favorite comment that I heard at a teacher’s conference that I use when being a good listener with others is, “Do you want me to comment or listen?”.

Kelly :

I have a 20yr old son. How do you know when to step in?

heathermiller750 :

You are spot on. My adult daughters tell me their troubles. They don’t want advice. Sometimes just a place to park those big feelings

Shebee🇨🇦 :

I feel like when I step in it stops the problem from escalating

Leslie :

I think this will decrease the amount of arguments 😁

Lisa786 :

Iv just came across you wow yr videos is like you know me 😢

Kiki :

Ugh… I need to pause bf talking

Shera Drink :

I’m sooo going through this!

Ang :

I'm working on this so hard right now. I just want to solve all the things!

Cezza P 💋 :

boxernubz :

I’m good if they don’t tell me all their problems. You know why I didn’t tell my own parents all of my problems? Because they had enough problems of their own to stress over and I was an adult.

Nana LJ :

I am loving your videos! It’s like you know my life!

Tracey :

Thank you for posting this!

misymunro :

thanks

Pepper :

Thank you

Victoria Hurst :

agreed

smallbusinessjourneygirl :

As a family mediator : this advice also good for elders

Pen :

Oh I love this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

sim :

I have this type of mature relationship with my 19 year-old daughter. But with my 22 year-old son he’d constantly come to me ruminating over every little problem and asking for my advice. I could never win. He’d ask for advice and when I gave it to him he’d say he “doesn’t need a lecture thanks.” If I didn’t give any advice, I didn’t care about him. He’d always do the complete opposite anyway then come to me when it backfired expecting me to fix his problem. This went round and round in circles for years, I always felt thoroughly drained and exhausted. One day we had yet another argument, he suddenly left and hasn’t spoken to me for over a year. I wish I’d held strong and not given in to his constant neediness and abuse but it was literally impossible not to.

way of the mop :

I love that