@elly.psychologist: Your body pulling away from someone, tensing at a hug, avoiding closeness in bed, isn't a malfunction, it's often your nervous system picking up on something about the relationship before your conscious mind is ready to face it. Bodies are built to predict danger using sensory information and past experience, and when a relationship carries real inconsistency or harm, that system does exactly what it's meant to, flagging the person as unsafe, regardless of the story you're telling yourself about the relationship. The problem starts when that signal gets overridden. Being made to feel like you're the problem, that you owe affection, that you're lucky to have this person, often leads to pushing through the discomfort, forcing intimacy, or wondering what's medically wrong with you rather than questioning what's actually happening in the relationship. Overriding that signal doesn't make the discomfort go away, it just disconnects you further from the very thing trying to protect you, and that disconnection tends to cost more the longer it goes on. A more useful response is getting curious rather than correcting yourself. If your body tenses around someone in this relationship, it's worth genuinely asking what that's about, fear, guilt, the specific alertness of walking on eggshells, rather than assuming something's wrong with you for reacting at all. Your body isn't broken in this relationship, it's communicating, and that information is exactly what you need to move forward in a way that's actually healthy for you Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #relationshiptok #relationshiptips #relationshipproblems #relationshipissues #toxicrelationship

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