@scott.austin.martin: A lot of men think all women are a certain way. A lot of women think all men are a certain way. But research suggests roughly half the population is securely attached. What we often miss is that insecurely attached people tend to be drawn to other insecurely attached people. It's almost like life keeps handing us mirrors until we heal. That mirror usually shows up as pain. And pain isn't your enemy. It's information — pointing toward something that needs attention inside of you. Most of us don't process pain. We cope with it. We avoid. We project. We say "it's not me, it's you." Both reduce discomfort in the moment. Neither creates healing. The cure for insecure attachment isn't finding the perfect partner. The cure for insecure attachment is secure attachment. It's becoming more securely attached yourself. The healthiest relationship you'll ever have begins with becoming a secure partner to yourself. #secureattachment #insecureattachment #attachmentstyles #nervoussystem

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