Grow with Kaela
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Tuesday 14 July 2026 17:04:00 GMT
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allnatural :
They have to want to heal. Most won’t, because they don’t see the value in it. They prefer to be the victim. 😳
2026-07-19 00:43:12
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Cinderella Rockafella :
my husband after his first marriage 😳he cant love me the way he needs too
2026-07-18 14:19:21
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Ali HIZIR :
THEY ARE MONSTERS 🔥🔥🔥
2026-07-14 18:07:49
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Aubrey :
The first type of avoidant turned me into the second type of avoidant
2026-07-14 18:05:15
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🇨🇦 Jeannine 🇨🇦 :
Because I was shattered so deeply from my DA I’ve become the second avoidant. I don’t believe I’ll find it again and I don’t trust at all.
2026-07-14 23:38:20
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Mags Cho :
Can avoidance be linked to female autism -?!
2026-07-15 12:23:34
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Oregon's Boring Refuge :
There is a third one that I have never heard of a influencer that speaks on this subject. Never address, but the ones that have pts from being in the service and yes, some of them do have very bad childhood. But then they go into the service. And it makes it worse. I don't know why the influencers never speak about this. Maybe it's too raw to speak of but since I've been around it and been around servicemen, most of my life. I see this pattern with them constantly They want love. They want a connection, but fear it. And they will run from it. It's sad. But it's again some that people never speak of I often wonder why I have addressed this with other influencers and they never bring it up again. Maybe it's too raw, too real, too. Intense, I don't know, i'm not saying all service people have this, but I have seen it in a lot of them, particularly when they've suffered.And went to war.
2026-07-16 04:21:42
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🌴🖇🫎🛴🎡🦿 :
This is what confuses me as someone who I guess would be "avoidant", I have no desire for any sort of relationship, it's always a bit funny to hear people complain about dating avoidant people because if these so called avoidant people sre dating, then what the hell does that make me 😂
2026-07-16 17:22:41
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Shaun Baynum :
My avoidant ex was the way she is because of a terrible 20 year marriage. She still love bombed me, and did the push pull bullshit. She ultimately told me she’s just better off being alone which is kind of sad, because I know she was crazy about me, but just couldn’t let her walls down.
2026-07-14 21:02:35
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Bonnie 🦋 :
I’m so glad you touched on this. The second type from heartbreak.
2026-07-14 23:39:46
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azulosah :
thats why i am so patient and understanding with my avoidant (second). i can feel he is able of deep love but he doesnt let himself get there. so he pulls away after closeness everytime.
2026-07-14 19:09:50
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OG_Salty_Dawg 💚 🦅 :
I’m a healthy mix of these described in this video. It’s unfortunate.
2026-07-15 01:50:15
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X B :
Can we talk about healing? Would they stay as they heal?
2026-07-16 02:30:53
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Monica :
I would call this the burnt out pursuer
2026-07-14 18:28:13
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Risto :
Yes 💯🙌🏻 These are adaptive strategies to danger, after all. Some people who have been hurt in love absorb a lot of the misinformation out there and start believing there’s something wrong with their anxiety. Instead of considering the harder possibility that maybe their anxiety was accurately responding to what was happening. The idea that everything will get better if you just learn to self-soothe can become a trap. It turns into the fantasy that enough self-improvement can fix your relationship. But sometimes the harder truth is that there was nothing you could have done. Sometimes your nervous system wasn’t malfunctioning, it was recognizing that the relationship itself wasn’t safe. So please don’t become the second category of avoidant 🙏🏻
2026-07-14 18:49:11
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user9691438616607 :
And then there’s a third type that’s a combination of both of these, with a HSP personality type, and maybe mild autism thrown in for good measure. That’s my husband. Fun times 😜
2026-07-15 04:36:01
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Yoni🌙 :
i feel called out
2026-07-16 13:04:45
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emme :
I was in a 14 year relationship with the first type. As a result of that, I am now the second type.
2026-07-14 23:13:17
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booboo713 :
That’s me
2026-07-15 02:09:11
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Kathy Hand :
my husband the one that shut off but its the same result u end up having to left
2026-07-15 08:51:30
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Micah :
Jesus she reads me like a fucking book. Im way more first type
2026-07-18 17:13:30
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DirtyDiego2020 :
I was the latter
2026-07-15 02:48:22
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nebula.witch :
They can also be both btw!
2026-07-16 01:33:29
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J00miez :
How does this show up in parenting??? Parent and child relationships??
2026-07-16 01:07:38
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Unhinged Dionysus :
I am so worried I am going to turn into that less talked about type because of what I'm going through.
2026-07-14 17:15:56
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