@behind_theborderline: just speaking from my own experience here and don’t get me wrong reassurance isn’t BAD or something that I never ever need but I’m talking about the cycle I’ve noticed when I come completely and utterly dependant on reassurance to feel safe. has anyone else noticed this aswell? #bpd #bpdawareness #bpdtiktok

Archer Vega :

I learned the reassurance was bullshit, but for some reason "babe you want me to get you some food" works 😭 like it allows me to fix myself while also offering me PROOF of their investment in my life

ĐɆ₥Ø₦ ĐØⱠⱠɎ :

I’ve been diagnosed with bpd years ago and your account is the first that’s actually been somewhat helpful

ishi :

honestly as someone on the other end who has autism it's genuinely so upsetting and I feel like I'm not good enough if my word isn't respected and it's a self fulfilling prophecy you are actively driving people away by making us feel like you'd be better off without us if we aren't enough

Mg :

Tough love hurts tho

d00bn00b :

Okay this topic has made me really curious about how ERP would work for this! OCD reassurance seeking is super similar and I wonder if ERP would help!

carrie louise ✨ :

my personal experience is ignoring it lol. when my friends just talk to me as normal - i lose that thought they’re leaving. cos i think well they won’t leave cos look how nice they’re being. and they replied to my story. and they asked about my day blah blah. nobody sees the internal panic and spiralling 🙂🙂🙂

shelleymay :

this is exactly like I am , I need reassurance all the time to feel ok but it's so draining for my other half . I fight myself all the time not to ask for it , I even word it differently so in my head I'm asking something different I'm not repeating myself, but my bf notices it . he's so fed up of the same question he feels like I don't trust him

Gamze 🐇🫧🍇🪷🐚 :

please i need more examples of validation

⛧Aubin⛧ :

yes like I consciously know that everything is gonna be fine, but in the moment it doesnt feel that way. reassurance is just telling me something that i already know, but dont currently believe. I need my critical thinking and self-reflection skills to be activated.

mom of girls :

Thank you for posting! You are educating and helping so many!

winnie&me🧸 :

your videos help me finally understand my mind so thank you

girlwalkingbackwards :

I’m… not ready to accept this yet :(

sunflowwwiee :

Yesterday he asked me how my Work week is going, that’s some good reassurance too. Like he‘s showing interest in my feelings and my life

Lotti :

Yesss. I need this all the time. It's exhausting.

KateyKat :

Is it glitchy on the left side and around her head for anyone else???

Danni Moore :

My ex husband…

houssam :

But the whole thing was exhausting and tiring, and in the end I had to leave, even though I still love her to this day, and because i am an avoidant our relationship was like World War II.

م🇿🇦 :

i love your account 🤍

desires :

can you let me download this so I can send my partner

Melissa :

Mg :

Oh fuck me wtf how do you fix it