@the_control_code: When women kill their partners, self-defense is a factor in about a third of cases. When men kill theirs? 1%. Half the women had been abused by the man they killed. For twenty years partner homicide dropped, steepest in women killing husbands. The cause: shelters, legal aid, women having their own money (Browne & Williams, 1989; Dugan, Nagin & Rosenfeld, 1999). When women could leave, women stopped killing. Since 2014, women killed by partners is rising again — men killed by partners keeps falling (Fridel & Fox). She kills to end the control. He kills to finish it. #coercivecontrol #controlcode #domesticviolenceawareness #intimatepartnerviolence #whydoeshedothat
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Wednesday 15 July 2026 05:19:30 GMT
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KitKat :
It’s “if I can’t have you no one can” vs “I’d rather be in prison than continue to be abused by you”
2026-07-15 13:25:01
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Nana Emm :
anyone remember long hat pins??? my grandma wore them until it was made illegal.... why did they become illegal??? women started using them as self defense weapons.....
2026-07-15 14:12:55
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kelley :
"she kills to end control, he kills to finish it" is the perfect summary.
2026-07-15 13:53:08
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Super.scorpio🍉🇨🇦 :
The show Why Women Kill did a great job showing this
2026-07-15 06:00:47
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albabz :
It’s a shame this is only going to end up on mostly women’s fyp—most of us know this information. Men are the ones who should be hearing this
2026-07-15 13:59:15
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Nova May 🏳️🌈 :
Divorce rates didn’t increase, men’s survival rates did. I’ve been saying this FOR YEARS.
2026-07-15 13:38:40
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Sarcasmiz4winners :
When I was 13-15 yrs old I had an abusive stepdad. I used to fantisize about killing him constantly. I left home at 15
2026-07-15 15:02:42
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Covenmarie :
When a Woman does it, her sentence is harsher and she will stay longer with out early release.
2026-07-15 12:31:10
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Nytesong :
He is killing to commit the ultimate act of control.
2026-07-15 07:08:06
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cancan3k :
Why don't they make resources available on educating men...like maybe you shouldn't kill your partner
2026-07-16 02:52:57
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Brad :
100% of men killed by their partner had a history of victimization. The men just aren’t in a position to share it.
2026-07-15 16:49:53
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freakmastertee :
My ex literally told me the only way I was leaving was in a body bag.. yet he was confused on why I left in the middle of night instead of just breaking up w him 😳😳
2026-07-16 01:04:07
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chaos witch creations :
and women get harsher, longer jail sentences for killing in defence VS a man killing in anger because he has no emotional intelligence... women are still held to higher standards than men in every way...
2026-07-16 00:52:12
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n0t1nsp0 :
Killing for freedom vs killing for control it's absolutely insane
2026-07-17 16:15:40
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🕯️Sister🌙Sin✨🐦⬛ :
And domestic violence laws need to change! It’s self defense if a man kills an intruder, but it’s not self defense if your spouse is your captor.
2026-07-15 15:24:56
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Fern :
Killing for freedom vs killing over being defied.
2026-07-15 21:12:10
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Jade 💋 :
Men will focus on the very FEW % of women who kill the way men do with malice intent. Not on the fact that that majority percentage of women of who do kill do it out of survival not malice. “Women kill too” yes but out of necessity not desire.
2026-07-19 14:21:26
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jooker :
men who kill their wife, just because, get on average 3yrs in jail.
women who kill their husbands, in self defence, get on average 15yrs.
2026-08-21 22:13:02
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SheImpatient :
Family court allowing abusers to have access to us by giving custody to our abusers has been rising. Arizona even tried to make family court a national emergency.
2026-07-15 14:35:34
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Prettyandpressed💅🏼 :
Women stopped getting married
2026-07-16 06:44:11
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followthepyro :
it is clear you did your research I checked the numbers myself, like I do for all of these kinds of videos, and you nailed it thank you for sharing and raising awareness the only thing I would say is that your explanation lines up great with the reduction we saw until around 2010 but doesn't explain the recent decade long increase do you have any thoughts on the reasons behind that?
2026-07-15 13:57:38
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DEMONHUNTER :
I will never date or have sx or marry a man. I want to be safe.
2026-07-16 14:24:27
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Jazmine Yvone :
And women get more time in prison then men for the same crime or for protecting themselves
2026-07-16 00:41:52
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Apocalyptic Grief :
women unalive in self defense or to defend their children!
2026-07-15 13:36:54
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