@the_control_code: When women kill their partners, self-defense is a factor in about a third of cases. When men kill theirs? 1%. Half the women had been abused by the man they killed. For twenty years partner homicide dropped, steepest in women killing husbands. The cause: shelters, legal aid, women having their own money (Browne & Williams, 1989; Dugan, Nagin & Rosenfeld, 1999). When women could leave, women stopped killing. Since 2014, women killed by partners is rising again — men killed by partners keeps falling (Fridel & Fox). She kills to end the control. He kills to finish it. #coercivecontrol #controlcode #domesticviolenceawareness #intimatepartnerviolence #whydoeshedothat
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Wednesday 15 July 2026 05:19:30 GMT
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KitKat :
It’s “if I can’t have you no one can” vs “I’d rather be in prison than continue to be abused by you”
2026-07-15 13:25:01
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Nana Emm :
anyone remember long hat pins??? my grandma wore them until it was made illegal.... why did they become illegal??? women started using them as self defense weapons.....
2026-07-15 14:12:55
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~Clairelouise Mason~ FWClub☘️ :
I didnt know about the dv clock the signs, mine was ticking i didnt know until I left, during my case I heard details from the shelter I was at 6... next number is 7. no more numbers after that. thankfully a shelter helped us. we had no where to go.
2026-07-15 05:32:37
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kelley McGrail :
"she kills to end control, he kills to finish it" is the perfect summary.
2026-07-15 13:53:08
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Covenmarie :
When a Woman does it, her sentence is harsher and she will stay longer with out early release.
2026-07-15 12:31:10
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Nytesong :
He is killing to commit the ultimate act of control.
2026-07-15 07:08:06
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albabz :
It’s a shame this is only going to end up on mostly women’s fyp—most of us know this information. Men are the ones who should be hearing this
2026-07-15 13:59:15
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Super.scorpio🍉🇨🇦 :
The show Why Women Kill did a great job showing this
2026-07-15 06:00:47
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lo 💕 :
i don’t think men really know what they’re advocating for when they argue against no fault divorce
2026-07-15 06:38:00
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Sarcasmiz4winners :
When I was 13-15 yrs old I had an abusive stepdad. I used to fantisize about killing him constantly. I left home at 15
2026-07-15 15:02:42
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Nova May :
Divorce rates didn’t increase, men’s survival rates did. I’ve been saying this FOR YEARS.
2026-07-15 13:38:40
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Apocalyptic Grief :
women unalive in self defense or to defend their children!
2026-07-15 13:36:54
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🕯️Sister🌙Sin✨🐦⬛ :
And domestic violence laws need to change! It’s self defense if a man kills an intruder, but it’s not self defense if your spouse is your captor.
2026-07-15 15:24:56
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Primaadonnaa :
Of personal experience. yes. Glad I was able to leave
2026-07-16 04:28:41
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Fluff_off_1234 :
eeh..yes? Thats not new information.
2026-07-16 10:34:10
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Lynne Marie932 :
before no fault divorce and resources for women to leave....there were widows...lots and lots of widows....
2026-07-15 17:21:33
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Fern :
Killing for freedom vs killing over being defied.
2026-07-15 21:12:10
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Liyahgabrielle :
oh this is good research
2026-07-16 04:03:42
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cancan3k :
Why don't they make resources available on educating men...like maybe you shouldn't kill your partner
2026-07-16 02:52:57
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Jazmine Yvone :
And women get more time in prison then men for the same crime or for protecting themselves
2026-07-16 00:41:52
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followthepyro :
it is clear you did your research I checked the numbers myself, like I do for all of these kinds of videos, and you nailed it thank you for sharing and raising awareness the only thing I would say is that your explanation lines up great with the reduction we saw until around 2010 but doesn't explain the recent decade long increase do you have any thoughts on the reasons behind that?
2026-07-15 13:57:38
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I didnt need to watch this video to know the answer.
2026-07-15 06:58:49
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Annie K :
Unfortunately most of us women don’t need studies to know this
2026-07-15 22:28:31
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ssskquee :
It’s unfair that a woman strength is considered the same as a man, thus self defense using a weapon against an obviously stronger man, considered a crime…
2026-07-15 08:26:17
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Tali :
That being said, I don’t want to hear another "wHaT aBoUt tHe mEn?"
2026-07-15 15:04:45
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