Opallauryn
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Lady Scorpian :
Be more of a bitch when dating, bitchy women get the far better men
2026-07-16 19:18:25
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krystin :
my bf has said ‘oh i thought you like doing the dishes’ i said no i like having the dishes done
2026-07-16 20:44:18
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Rebuilding with T :
My ex sure was able to comment when the house was dirty but when I would say will you have eyes then help me clean all of a sudden he needed a list and didn't know what to do. The one time I made him a list he told me there were too many things on the list and did nothing. There is no winning with men like that.
2026-07-17 00:11:36
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Angie | Womanhood Awakened :
To top it off it’s bs. You produce the “list” all decorated and shit and put it up and they still don’t do it. Were so done with the manipulation
2026-07-16 21:28:46
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Manda :
Yep. I refused to make lists and ask for things to be done so ended up living in total filth. Then got blamed for not cleaning up his messes bc he didn’t like living in filth
2026-07-16 22:07:24
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Alyssa :
I made a new rule - if you’ve put in as much forethought and planning you as me then you are do it your way…..until the. There’s a reason just do what I say
2026-07-16 21:33:53
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Emily | Eating and Roaming :
At one point I was coming from the other side of this - during most of my second marriage, I worked long hours while he was a SAHD. He was extremely territorial about the housework - if I jumped in when I got home from work to do the dishes in the sink, or do a load of laundry, he would take it as criticism that I was accusing him of not cleaning well enough (and I most definitely was not - he was busy caring for our child all day)! So I would ask him what he most wanted help with - offering to do whatever were his least favorite chores - but I’d get the same response, that I was accusing him of being a bad homemaker. But if I didn’t jump in and do chores he would tell our families and friends I was lazy and entitled. So I learned from this that - never again will I choose a partner who is more invested in weaponizing things than in having a respectful collaboration.
2026-07-16 18:12:31
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RoseSaysHello :
I bet if they paid for a hotel room and they went in and found trash piled up, the bed not made, food left on counters, etc they would have no problem “seeing” all the things that needed to get done and wasn’t. The passivity in the home is a control mechanism to get you to do it
2026-07-16 22:34:38
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Betsy :
They don’t go to work and ask their boses for detailed lists of what needs to be done every day either, they just go to work and do what needs to be done without being asked.
2026-07-16 23:54:37
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Connor J Thompson :
I honestly love lists. I feel bad when I’m not noticing what needs to be done and I am definitely working on it. But if my partner gave me a list of things that needed to be done, I would gratefully do it. We can’t always know what our partners need and communicating it can be hard. I would never be upset about a list in the same way I’d hope my partner would care about my communication of my needs.
2026-07-16 19:43:54
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kiwi :
they double down on their entitlement and refusal to change, but wonder why i don’t feel secure about building a future with them??
2026-07-16 18:58:09
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Missy Martin :
My hubs says he has OCD and if he starts cleaning he will become obsessed and it will be super clean but it won’t be healthy. Hmm let’s see, maybe I can help him with managing his ocd instead of cleaning if he makes me a list of what helps. 🤷🏻♀️
2026-07-16 23:24:39
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MJ aka MOMMIE :
You know? I truly believe men DO think housework is fun for us. That we love it. Hear me out. Men operate off of the 3Ps of Male Motivation: Pay, Praise and Pleasure. If they aren’t getting ONE of those Ps - they ain’t doing it. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. They assume women operate off of the same motivators so they (wrongly) assume that we get Pleasure from it (because nobody it praising or paying us!)
2026-07-16 23:33:26
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sconesandtea100 :
it’s also just the doubling down on not doing anything or acting like we’re asking for so much that really irks my nerves—just casual cruelty in the household that they live in and they should have a hand in taking care of too—just lacking in empathy 🙃
2026-07-16 17:35:29
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carolevans695 :
clean up only after yourself, don't do anything for him that he would have to do if he was living alone. do for him only what he does for you. he wants 50/50 then give it to him.
2026-07-16 20:21:00
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Anna :
I absolutely love my roommate to death but she does the same thing and blames it on her ADD, so I had to make a chore chart 😭
2026-07-16 18:47:14
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Valentine's Day bride :
I didn't get married until the age of 47, my husband is 15 years younger than me. I have been a housekeeper and caregiver for 20 years, I'm not doing that again for another adult who's able bodied
2026-07-16 17:18:49
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thatnerdukno98 :
My fiance and I moved in together but kept separate bedrooms. I don’t touch his bedroom. He cleans it. I don’t touch his laundry. He does it, and will do mine too. He takes the trash out when it’s full, and I rarely have to ask (sometimes I cook a whole bunch of stuff or vacuum everything and fill the trash, and then I ask because he doesn’t know it’s full). I only do the dishes because I hate the way he does them lol. If they wanted to, they would.
2026-07-16 18:11:03
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justcameforthecomments :
Men have no idea how much of a turn off an incompetent man is. They wonder why we lose interest and it's literally because we don't want to be your Mommy and clean up after you.
2026-07-16 19:16:37
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TheFallrim :
do you think all men just live in filth when they are single? we ask for lists because its what you want done.
2026-07-16 20:49:21
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Makenzie D406 :
I started out “helpless.” So I found a man who enjoys being the one to do the most
2026-07-17 02:06:46
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Sheera💙 :
Men absolutely are capable of being fully functional adults without handholding from a woman. My partner cleans when things are dirty. He runs to the grocery store when we’re out of something, etc. He does what I’ve always done without guidance without guidance, and it’s so refreshing after being with men who don’t. I refuse to be with another man who won’t function like an adult. I refuse to be a domestic servant to a man, and it’s incredibly unattractive to see your man as an incompetent child.
2026-07-16 21:46:11
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user5916250039534 :
Yeah I was drowning in that cycle for years. It genuinely drained me. Anyway now I’m single and I’m the person in a lab trying to make AI not destroy our planet. He’s a loser and sucked all my brain power and energy. I don’t want to be screamed at because I took out the trash after he didn’t do it forever (since I took away the opportunity for him to do it later).
2026-07-16 19:23:34
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Amber :
It’s just laziness and selfishness
2026-07-16 19:32:44
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