@drsarahhensley: The gym isn't the problem. Using it to avoid yourself is. For some people, fitness is a passion. For others, it's a distraction from the vulnerability they're trying not to feel. The question isn't whether you love the gym. It's whether you can put the weights down and still sit with your emotions. Have you ever caught yourself using work, the gym, or another hobby to stay busy instead of looking inward? 👇 #drsarahhensley #GymTok #GymLife #fitnessmotivation #attachmentstyles #dismissiveavoidant #relationshipscience #MentalHealth #selfawareness #emotionalintelligence

BCE2015 :

Dated two men obsessed with the gym. Both dismissive avoidants.

G world :

Yep. Not only obsessed with the gym, but OBSESSED with his daily routine. & I thought it was admirable when I first met him 😔🤦🏼‍♀️😭

Sabrina :

Define obsessed vs taking care of yourself 🤔

Joel :

And what’s wrong with that?

Princeton & Ivy :

This is a ridiculous take. People that get up and start their day with a 5km and a workout is because they love themselves. It takes discipline and self control. It's a lifestyle. If you can't understand that it's because you're not conscious of your health and future. People that are don't want to be with people that aren't. It's that simple. So maybe it didn't work out with a gym rat you started dating but it's cuz they can't respect your daily routines. Not cuz they're a dismissive avoidant.

Matthew Guerrera 🕺🏼 :

What about going to the gym after being discarded by a narcissist?

BounceBackBlueprint :

What about FA? I get into the gym and then drop it then obsess over it again. How do I stop impulsively breaking up w my person?

Hank B :

I'm a gym rat, my attachment style is stable.

bootz :

Or it’s just ADHD

Brown sugar :

How about being Fat and just needing to be in a gym so you don’t over eat! Gym for me every day!

melypepper :

Im a anxious leaning secure and the gym and lifting is part of my life .

Pq-tricia :

DA, gym 6 days a week for two hrs. Dated a DA, found a valid reason to end the relationship. I get bored in every relationship once they feel routine.

Nick :

How dare you tell me why I go to the gym 😝

cbdennis611 :

workaholism iis the most enabled avoidance strategy

EXPANDABLE 💀 | BOUNCER :

At first we go to the gym to avoid the troubles piled up in the relationship...but as time goes on,we feel attached to the gym and we create goals through it

EGREG25 :

Faye29745 :

Or other random projects

Andrea :

My anxious ex was/is extremely into going to the gym and would feel guilty when he didn't go

the.fading.echo :

Super gym obsessed and super secure. I also thoroughly enjoy vulnerability. Maybe I'm just weird for being normal with a hobby I love!

Matt :

My soon to be ex-wife works 6/7 days a week, we have a child. She says she has to be at work. After years of asking for more family time, our marriage slowly disintegrated. I wasn’t perfect but that’s sounds spot on.

beautifulworld909 :

Oh for heavens sake

user6317221743819 :

no contact with my DA ex for almost 3 months. he came in third in a power lifting competition and may compete nationally lmao. didn't realize that was an indicator.

snoopy :

No just the anxious going to AVOID the AVOIDANT!!!!!!

julio.g90 :

Interesting perspective.