@growwithkaela: I’ve received many requests for this video. Texting, phone calls, and long distance relationships are the safe zone for an avoidant. Here’s why the consistency can change once you crave more of them in person.
This is spot on. One of the many things my ex DA did that I could not wrap my brain around. Via text and phone we would talk for hours when we lived in separate states. Then the moment I moved in he would be sitting 10 feet from me, but didn’t say a word. I couldn’t understand why he would talk to me via text throughout the day, but ignore me when he got home from work. It got much worse throughout the years.
2026-07-17 03:46:34
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Mr_Butternut :
What do we do about this? It’s unfair.
2026-07-17 10:05:10
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darkgixx3r :
ooooh I think you should cover more on this long distance relationship.
2026-09-04 01:18:19
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FruitFliesLikeAnAirplane :
and once they know the marriage is headed for divorce, they will not put anything in text that can be used against them, but can be wicked in person.
2026-08-11 21:20:29
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nattybodatty124 :
You have just outlined, in one short video, the last 8 months of my life with him. 500kms apart. Love bombed at the start. Amazing sex the two times we were “in person”. Then, I got anxious, wanted a clear idea of a future. He pulled waaay back. No more calls. No more video chats. Still many selfies, including intimate. But go days on end with no contact. It’s hurtful. But, I’m slowly healing myself. Trying to lose my “fixer” mentality. I can’t fix him.
2026-08-02 23:39:12
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SCORCHEDURPLE :
100% accurate in my experience.
2026-09-13 12:31:32
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troyadams95531 :
Only argued over text. Broke up over text. Was only nasty to me and called me names over text after we broke up when she had been completely sweet to me the entire time we were together for over a year.
2026-07-16 21:41:31
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user2622450343434 :
Texting is impersonal [Perfect score]
2026-09-07 16:24:19
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.skidsteer :
My husband texts while in the same house!
2026-08-12 16:18:31
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Jofish :
As a DA this makes an incredible amount of sense. Texting is almost magical. Even in therapy I show up better when I show up with a journal entry I have written. I just did my first therapy session without a journal entry and I almost never want to go back. I just like who I am behind words better, I feel like that’s my best me.
2026-07-19 19:38:07
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tlshermanrn :
I responded to text this morning. I feel so weak for doing so, because he doesn't want me.
2026-07-16 20:05:50
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خديچة آند آرت :
Lol they don’t text back because they’re busy
2026-07-22 18:37:04
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Wintersnow234 :
Omg the selfies 😳 This is so true
2026-07-17 02:48:00
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SasssyLassie :
Do you think some become functioning alcoholics as a way of coping with their sometimes overwhelming emotions?
2026-07-16 20:00:30
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Michelle :
If that were the case, why would they block you on texting?
2026-07-17 02:41:57
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bluddbabe :
My jaw dropped
2026-07-17 22:32:06
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mspblue32 :
that explains all videos and talking in the beginning. then stopping and going to pics with no words
2026-07-21 00:12:48
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Annika :
My exact experience omg
2026-09-29 20:38:06
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lifeagain39 :
Oh wow. We had what I thought was beautiful 18 month relationship with some distance between us, I just saw him once a week. Then I tried to move in, found out some things about him he was hiding from me, and he pulled away, got mean angry and said he preferred seeing me only once a week and other just really rejecting hurtful comments. I had to move out again immediately and I was devastated. It’s only in the past couple days I’ve been figuring out he is probably avoidant, and having that long distance structure is a lot of what made things work, and he could he stuff about himself from me
2026-08-04 18:27:12
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Gethika :
true
2026-09-16 20:58:34
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frau_ruckt :
Damn! Another great video that helps tie this all together
2026-09-25 21:16:43
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Jerome :
wow so true
2026-08-10 18:28:01
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crystalwoolridge7 :
My you must know my ex 🔥
2026-08-09 05:19:26
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Tequila Coco🥥🍍🔮🌙──⃝─⃝⃝⃝⃝── :
don't tell me thos
2026-07-17 02:51:57
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