@scott.austin.martin: Before your next hard conversation with your partner - watch this first. Most couples skip straight to the fight. But there's a conversation that needs to happen before that one. A conversation about why things go wrong in the first place. Not to assign blame. Not to decide who's right or wrong. Just to understand that both of you have nervous system protections that were built long before this relationship - and those protections may be the thing getting in the way, not the two of you. This is the talk before the talk. #relationships #nervoussystem #couplegoals #communication #secureattachment

The Relationship Gap :

this is spot on. Awareness and understanding is key ❤️

Blanca Cruz6327 :

This is lovely. It also requires willing participation from both parties, otherwise it becomes re-traumatizing to the single partner willing to be open, vulnerable, to do the work, have that self awareness and be able to hold space for the other person

Oi Oi Oi :

As I started to address my childhood trauma, I learned that my protections vs my husband’s were tearing apart our 35 year marriage. Now, I know I need to ask him if we can schedule to have a conversation so our nervous systems are prepared. It’s revitalised our relationship. We love and want to be with each other but our ignorance was driving us away from each other. You are sharing such valuable information. Thank you 🙏

Megan :

This just helped me except a promotion offer that I got for a job and company that I love today 💕 thank you so much, I can trust myself to do it and to catch me if anything does go wrong.

Watermelon :

this makes so much sense to me. But I don't think it will land well with my OH. willing to try though and will report back 🤞

CRF :

This is absolutely brilliant and so are you!

Jadestarcrochet :

I wouldn't have the chance to say all that. And even if I did, by the third sentence I would have a rebuttal as to how what I was talking about before the talk makes no sense and what video I watched again. And probably how I am patronizing him, talking to him like he's a child. Some people are just incapable.

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alexxgoldmusic :

Brilliant 🙌🏽

will.i.am :

✨💛✨️thank you for you✨️💛✨️

cheryl :

Thank you.

Anora Melchizedek :

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