@the_control_code: You loaded the dishwasher right. Now it’s the towels. You fixed the towels. Now it’s your tone. A fixed standard can be met. A met standard makes you equals. That’s why it moves. Stark calls it degradation. Bancroft called him Mr. Right. Every “you did it wrong” carries a second clause he never says out loud: “and I’m the one who knows what right looks like.” The criticism is a coronation. Field test: did the standard hold still after you met it or are the goalposts always moving? #coercivecontrol #thecontrolcode #emotionalabuse #narcabuse #relationshipredflags

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katieintheozarks
KatieintheOzarks :
it's not about them being afraid to be equal. they just like chaos.
2026-07-17 14:16:58
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bigfatfeminist444
🇨🇦BigFatFeminist🇨🇦 :
he would do this...but with expectations of what my body looked like
2026-07-25 20:12:55
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i.like.bagels8
I like bagels :
My dad gave me a list of chores to do before I could go to my friends funeral, he realized he was getting good labor out of me and kept adding more tasks until the whole house was clean and I’d missed the funeral
2026-07-17 05:09:42
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rowrowrowthatboat
Life is but a dream_ :
Can you discuss men who claim that cheating is the only thing you could ever do to make them leave you.. I’ve heard this from two vastly different men and it even seems to have different implications between those men. I’ve thought about this a fair bit lately but not sure if it’s a discussion elsewhere
2026-07-19 20:20:42
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candaceeparish
cp1938 :
My ex was a hoarder. I would clean and discard then he would bring in more and redecorate. I finally realized who and what I was competing with, his mental disorder! I don't live in chaos anymore.
2026-07-18 19:28:41
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nursejill66
Nurse Jill :
I would just stop what I was doing and quietly walk away. Finally walked away permanently.
2026-07-17 05:47:58
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littledynamite03
LittleDynamite :
its just them wanting to keep you in chaos.
2026-07-17 07:23:50
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user4817861723090
user4817861723090 :
This crap was the worse and was the final event that led me to get out.
2026-07-17 05:29:22
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rachelusprich158
rachelusprich158 :
the contempt is palpable.
2026-07-19 11:38:36
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elogiosamislocuras
elogioamislocuras :
What about when you point them out something and they tell you that what you see is your perception as if your perception is wrong and theirs is always right. It's kind of the same thing.
2026-07-21 23:17:32
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stickywicket5280
Emily :
And why is it always about my “tone?”
2026-07-29 21:08:46
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fili.in.good.faith
fili~ :
Thank you for not exploiting another’s tragedy for views. Respect. 💗💗
2026-08-06 17:15:11
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stirthatpot4
StirThatPot :
On some level he hates you and wants to watch you suffer. It was a hard lesson to learn.
2026-07-21 21:02:38
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marqi_the_malevolent
marqi_the_malevolent :
the problem with moving the goal post is that now I'm better than him in every way, so what do I do with him now?
2026-07-17 17:54:13
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sonyafl2
sonyafl2 :
I hate that I lived this for me 😩💔
2026-07-18 03:23:54
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whitelightthefrequency
WhiteLightTheFrequency :
perminantly above you so u r always chasing to please him on demands u never thoight u would im the first place taking away from what u need to do for your self .then ruminnatefkr days
2026-07-21 12:06:50
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genxsteph73
Steph❌️ :
baseboards and meal planning. 😒
2026-07-19 05:47:18
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bigfatfeminist444
🇨🇦BigFatFeminist🇨🇦 :
this was a prominent tactic when I was with narcissistic men
2026-07-25 20:15:04
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kb_comm
KB|Comm :
And this is why I’m always the villain 😏
2026-07-28 14:40:22
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tbizzle4shizz
user9290156507958 :
YES!!!!! 💜
2026-07-17 05:13:56
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squee_ze_
squee_ze_ :
All he is doing is communicating his needs. And when I point it out I’m shutting him down.
2026-09-09 22:38:59
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squee_ze_
squee_ze_ :
Omg this is my life.
2026-09-09 22:36:49
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akidinthe80s
Llael McDonald Artist :
Yep constantly shifted the goal post so he could pick at me.
2026-07-25 02:30:54
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lynnettehuston839
Lynnette 🇺🇲 :
THIS
2026-07-18 23:55:45
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