Auntie Pretty
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Buttered Toast :
Counsellor here. The stress of the loss, especially when it’s complicated grief can manifest in your body. Your brain and body won’t allow you to always be in deep grief so you get some time where you feel fine, then boom! There’s an analogy of grief being like a light in a jar, sometimes the light is dull and manageable and hangs out neatly in the bottom of the jar other times it’s bright and threatens to break the jar wide open. Grief bubble is a great analogy!
2026-07-18 21:05:34
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Angela Voelker :
I understand. My dad passed in February. I’m waiting for the tears to feel healing but they are devastating. The grief bubble is real.
2026-08-15 03:37:24
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AshleeK :
The thing about grieving someone that you had a unhealthy relationship with is you weren’t just grieving the loss of that person, you’re also grieving the loss of that tiny little glimmer of hope you didn’t even know you were hanging onto for that relationship to heal. And that sucks very big.
2026-07-19 21:05:41
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Jess :
This will be me with my mother 😳
2026-09-13 03:36:29
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jayjay :
Went through this with my mom, we were estranged for years, my parents were no longer together but somehow my dad would always be there for her, especially in the end. Fortunately I was able to be at the hospital before my mom passed, and I am so glad I had that opportunity. The grief was crazy, it took a few years and therapy to help get through the pain. Hang in there🩷
2026-08-01 17:51:12
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Nik :
Here is my trigger warning..I am 46 my dad died when I was 18. We had a love hate relationship and I am now 28 yrs in and it never goes away. At least for me. It could be a quote..a song..a way the sky looks..something someone said..literally anything. A cry will come. I've learned yo just go with it. I cry I do the memory thing and then it passes and feels better. I use it as my tool. If I ever feel like I have been moving through life A little fast and havent really taken a moment to breath, I think of him have a cry and it's like a release and a joy at the same time. Love your videos and wishing the most light to you and your sis. 💜✌️
2026-08-09 11:13:04
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steph492 :
my dad also passed in April many moons ago. I also lost him far too young. I was close with him, but the feeling is similar. my best similarity is that you're in a box with a ball bouncing and there is a button inside the box that is grief. in the beginning, the box is small, and the button is pressed by the bouncing ball often. As time grows, so does the box, so the button is pressed less often, but when pressed, it's the same amount of grief as it was before. all that to say, I hated when people said sorry for your loss, but as a member of the ddc, sending all the love 💕
2026-07-19 00:09:37
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Txsweetheart81 :
I get it. I lost my dad last Thursday. I originally grieved him back in 2012 when we stopped talking because it hurt him too much for me to stay in California and not come home, but then we reconciled in April 2024 and now I’m grieving him a second time it hurts and it sucks! 💔
2026-07-21 20:55:19
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caroline 🇨🇦 :
The day of my dad’s funeral, I started a major cold, felt like crap for a week.
2026-07-18 22:01:11
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Lindsay🇨🇦 :
Grief is so f’ing hard. So hard. I imagine this is like a double scoop of it because of the complicated relationship. I’m sorry. It won’t always hurt so much. But it’ll be bumpy for awhile.
2026-07-22 16:11:13
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Jill Peile McCreary :
Sending you love darling ❤️❤️❤️
2026-07-18 20:57:51
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Natalie :
Another member of the dead dad club. Mine passed away when I was 18, I’m not 35. We had a great relationship when I was a child and TERRIBLY abusive relationship when K was a teenager. The grief bubble is real and sticks with you for a long time. Just recently have I been able to focus on the happier memories and not curl into a ball and cry when the bubble finally explodes. Time heals, therapy works and I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💕
2026-08-13 20:16:16
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Earthmamagoddess1030 :
Another Dead Dad with a bad relationship. I was with him when he died but I hadn't talked to him in 7 years before that. It was WAYYYYYYY worse than I ever expected. I like the grief bubble, I felt like it was a wave and I learned how to ride it, but it took me out for a long time. There's no wrong way.
2026-07-21 08:30:46
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Michelle Cabral :
Both of my parents are dead. My dad and I had a rough relationship in one way and my mom and I had a rough relationship in another way. You grieve what you should have had, what you had or went through and what you wish you had. It sucks, so bad. Sending my love to you and your sister.
2026-07-20 13:48:26
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Melissa Thorp 🎀 :
You grieve the potential of the person; the potential of the relationship; the words that are left unsaid. You grieve the good parts of the person, and the happier memories (even if they're only a few). You grieve being loved , or wishing you were loved by your dad. It happens on every level and there's no way around it - ya just gotta go through it
2026-07-20 12:20:12
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Meg 🇨🇦 🏒 :
omgggg. yes. my dad died 20 years ago. not a great relationship. it was interesting.
2026-07-28 17:36:16
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Lewie87 :
Therapist here. Grief is so tricky like this, it’s not linear and it doesn’t always look the way we think it will. I heard someone say that grief is like glitter. You think you’ve cleaned it all up but then one day you go to move something in a random drawer and there it is, a little bit of glitter. And in your case, you’re remembering a very complex relationship so it’s not going to look like just sadness about the loss. 🫂 keep being kind to yourself
2026-07-19 02:09:05
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Carla James :
Weirdly I lost my dad in April as well and I didn’t have a great relationship with him either. Counseling helped for sure. I think i grieved my dad before as he had dementia and and he did t remember me at the end anyways. But it still really sucks. And I’m a nurse so I like to compartmentalize everything. So there that and grieving does suck and hits you at the worst times
2026-07-19 02:02:00
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