Emily ♡ BPD & CPTSD Therapist
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springbreak77 :
Never take away the sh stuff. They will just move to drugs or alcohol or something more permanent. If you just immediately take away their only outlet that makes them feel better you are just putting them in a worse mental state
2026-07-21 19:47:19
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clara :
this is legit why I didn’t go to therapy for my ED until I was 18. I wanted and needed help, but NOT UNTIL I knew I had legal rights lol
2026-07-20 20:53:07
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Jane Doe :
Yup, my parents made it worse. They’d basically strip search me every night to look for SH. I got no privacy to even go to the bathroom. My mental health ended up being so awful by the end of it all that I moved out at 17.
2026-07-22 02:48:23
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kate☮️ :
heavy on parents being the origin, I’m 3 months clean & moved out 2 weeks after my 18th!🥲🙌
2026-07-20 20:05:59
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whimzzy :
wow i wonder why most kids dont get help
2026-07-21 16:00:10
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seekingstarss :
I started SH while already in therapy and knew if I told my therapist she had to tell my mom, who was indeed the reason 🥲 my second therapist I had to tell and begged for them to make my mom leave the room for the intake but she wouldnt and they didnt make her. Got screamed at in the car about "starving children in africa" on the way to the next appointment 😭 only stopped bc I was hospitalized and was too scared of being taken back there against my will. 10+ years clean now and no contact with my mom 🙏🏼
2026-07-20 19:26:42
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I am in your pantry 💚❤️ :
huh interesting, after the age of 12 here medical professionals aren't allowed to tell anything
2026-07-21 11:46:54
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fruit adventure tic tac :
crazy thing i’ve learned is that like one in three adults self injure. it’s not something you can just stop when you turn an adult. i’m 23 and i still self injure. i know thirty eight year olds, fifty year olds, who still self injure. it’s crazy
2026-07-20 21:45:24
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Roz<3 :
Becoming an adult almost helped me more because nobody was really forcing me to stop anymore, I had to sit down and think if that was a choice I PERSONALLY wanted to make. It was nobody else’s choice.
2026-07-20 20:57:21
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winslow :
Yeah it’s an example of kids having no rights or autonomy or real respect :// this kind of thing kills kids and it’s devastating because I know so many therapists who don’t like it either but have no choice.
2026-07-21 05:54:38
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moodswingsonmars :
All I did was lie to my therapist until I turned 18 bc my mom didn’t believe in mental health. I begged her to put me, she puts me in therapy, and then ripped me a new one any time I was honest about my home life or fessed up to self harm
2026-07-21 21:08:55
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Alex from down under 🦘🇦🇺🐨 :
this is exactly why young people don't seek help. Here in Australia my patients parents have no right to their medical information if I deem them mature enough. SH isn't something we need to tell parents. the only time the parent needs to be involved is when there's risk to life or the patient wants to tell the patient.
2026-07-21 03:46:22
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caryn0220 :
33, still struggle with SH, have since 11. My parents still don’t get it and they never will
2026-07-22 02:15:30
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gerard way puppy play :
my mom didnt do shit except yell at me, my friend helped me stop more than my family ever did and could
2026-07-21 13:42:26
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Hazel :
I genuinely hate that is a real law. I mean yeah certain things SHOULD be communicated to parents. But there is some things my parents have no business in knowing. It’s the reason why I hide some of my issues from doctors, therapists, etc.
2026-07-20 21:21:40
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Maddy 🖤 :
Why I stopped telling my therapist I did it
2026-07-21 05:16:32
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vvenovenomu :
self harm is addictive, being forced to stop immediately never works
2026-08-20 02:42:54
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Amare :
In my experience my therapist didn’t have to tell my parents about my self harm because they already knew I was struggling about it. I was allowed to keep my stuff, and the harm reduction approach was really helpful for me, knowing I had access to clean sharps was always better than searching for glass on the dirty concrete.
2026-07-22 18:48:10
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Shelbster :
As soon as I moved out I stopped SHing. Almost 5 years now. It was literally a week of SH once I was out but then I wasn’t triggered daily, I was able to make boundaries easier without someone walking in all the time.
2026-07-21 18:20:02
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Izzy<3 :
It sucks that harm reduction can't be part of recovery for minors. Especially since most people who self harm are under 18. That really leaves minors stuck, leading to lies since they may feel like they have no other option 😐
2026-07-23 01:51:00
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It’sJustMe :
Lucky to grow up in a country where this is handled discreetly, cause disclosure would’ve killed me.
2026-07-22 21:43:33
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LZedits :
As a teen, yes parents are so interfering. They are the reason I don’t tell most ppl abt my sh. I told before when I was 13 and they made things ten times worse. So when I relapsed I didn’t tell ppl.
2026-07-22 09:54:55
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Meepy92 :
legit a few reasons I didn't tell any adults about my self harm problems was because i did NOT want my parents to find out. (they did and threatened to send me to a mental hospital so I eventually stopped)
2026-07-21 21:03:01
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A Lone Fire :
I think in my opinion it’s silly to believe we can just automatically stop a kid from doing that if it’s something they are already doing. I’d aim for reduction myself as a parent, not just “stop that now never do that again.” However, I use to self harm. I still have scars on multiple parts of my body that my dad didn’t give me, nobody gave me, I was the one who did it. I’d probably try to just be there for my kids and give them the same tools I use. I use methods like massaging my wrists and shoulders with lotion or ice cubes. If I’m having flashbacks and want to harm in some ways I use warm compresses or cold compresses as a way to change the signals and usually that helps me a lot. We can’t control what our kids do and we can’t always control what happens in their lives, but we can let them know we are here for them and try to give them tools to live their lives.
2026-07-20 19:38:28
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jenniegiudice :
I am a parent of a child who sh. I wish someone would tell me what to do or not do. I just want my daughter to be okay. I would do whatever that takes.
2026-07-21 14:23:02
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