@litemindedtherapy: Drop any questions in the comments! Happy to do a part 2. #emotionalneglect #traumatherapy #attachmentwounds #relationaltrauma #therapytok

grinch_541 :

Pair this with undiagnosed ADHD & autism and you’ve got yourself a real doozie 🫨

Lisa :

I have multiple coworkers who know me better than my own family

AK72O :

Let a girl doom scroll in peace 😭

mere💖 :

It feels like I’ve taken that edited version of myself and parceled it out to different friend groups. I talk about music with the music friends, and games with the game group, etc. Each group knows a different side, and I don’t know what combination of personality traits and hobbies and interests is actually the real me.

shoekeLady :

I’ve never heard anyone talk about this before. I’m an adult with my own kids now. I KNOW my mom loves me, but doesn’t know me at all. After 50 years of close contact. I don’t think she was known either.

guavagoddess :

who doesn’t love ✨Complex PTSD from emotional neglect ✨

Wanderwithme :

This is such a revelation vs all the therapists just calling it simply “emotional neglect.” Now I know what to talk about in therapy. It makes me think my parents weren’t known either. Maybe “to know” requires “being known.” 😔

Bri | aspiring singer & yapper :

THANK YOU! I felt so guilty using labels like “emotionally neglected” as I was loved. Now this term is way more easy on my heart. Not being emotionally known, as such an emotional kid, was still damaging.

MARJORIE•Write Better Romance :

Please this is everything I’ve been disentangling as an adult in therapy for almost a decade 😭

Sarah J :

This is something I've been trying to put into words for years. Thank you for sharing.

Tortoise 🐢 | The Slow Life :

Isn’t this everyone?

Cecilia :

This!! The developmental impacts of this are broad- undoing this damage is crazy hard.

moragmond :

It is impossible for someone to actually love you without actually knowing you. Best case scenario they love the idea of you, but no, they do not love *you*

petty_crocker :

what....do I do about it?

Em_uh_lee :

Hello avoidant attachment

no one :

DreaStrass💕 :

Yup, i feel like my mother never really understood me or tried to know me. She latches on to certain things ‘andrea is a reader, she loves to read’ but does she know what genres? Even one favorite series or character? I honestly dont think so. No one ever asked really. If you werent loud, you werent seen, but when i tried to be loud, i got in trouble. Its a massive wall in our relationship. She loves me, but she dosent see ME

alordy12 :

This reminds me of why I relate to the Noah Kahan song “Doors”- “I keep showing you doors, but you can’t open them up. Because it gets harder to see my the closer you try to look”

HR Explained :

I’ve said being taken care of isn’t the same as being nurtured and accepted and appreciated.

Mochajade :

This was so encouraging to me for how I’m raising my son 😭😭 I’ve been really working on breaking this cycle and I am on the way!

Mossy :

is this different than emotional neglect?

Grace|ThrowingStonesGlassworks :

How do I make sure that my child feels emotionally known? Curious questions, Making sure to tell them that they can feel big feelings with you, beibg present. what else?

bakariscorner :

I love this explanation! But now what 😭

rl :

Um. Wait. Damn…

woofwoofpass :

The only version of me my parents are capable of liking is one in which my personality, core values, identity, hobbies, and political beliefs are erased or reduced to the point they can pretend those traits aren't there 🫠