@drbeckyatgoodinside: I recently shared a video about my "Side-Door Strategies" - and so many of you asked for more. So here's a deeper explanation. If this resonates, feel free to share it or save it for later.   If this resonates, feel free to share it or save it for later.   Front-Door Strategies are direct, intentional, and straightforward. You walk right up to the problem and name it head-on. You might say: "I know you're upset that you didn't make the team" or "Hey, let's talk about what happened with your sister."   But for Deeply Feeling Kid front-door strategies often backfire. Why? Because there's a level of shame and fear that makes direct approaches feel too intense, too exposing. When you walk through that front door, your DFK slams it in your face: "Stop talking!" "Get away from me!" "Leave me alone!"   Side-Door Strategies are indirect, creative, and sneaky-in-the-best-way. Instead of walking straight at the problem, you meander around it. You might say: "You know, if *I* didn't make the team, I'd probably feel really upset" or you talk to your kid while driving in the car where eye contact isn't required, or you let them hide under a pillow while you share something vulnerable.   If this sounds like your child, if you’re looking for more support, I’ve got you covered with my Deeply Feeling Kids Program. Link in bio for more.

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