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elikai :
i hate admitting this, but i don't want to be this sad. i don't want to feel this pitiful. i was raised to be the sunshine of our family;) the one who brings the loudest laugh into the room. i hate admitting that i also need someone to help me figure out life. i grew up thinking i always had to have a plan, at a very young age, both of my parents were already working abroad lol my little brother was still a toddler, and i remember being in Grade 7 and attending his recognition day😃 i was the one who pinned his award on him in front of all those parents. in a way, i became a mother to my younger brother before i was even old enough to understand what that really meant. as i grew older, i became used to being part of every decision. i became one of the people in our family who was expected to figure things out, solve problems, and know what to do next. i learned how to be independent very early. i was in Grade 2 when i learned how to commute on my own because there was no one to fetch me. i didn't think much of it back then. i just knew i had to do it and now that im 22, i think i'm finally starting to feel the burnout from the life i had to live too early. i hate that i allowed my parents to see me as someone who could handle everything. the eldest daughter who always knew what to do. the one who could figure things out quickly. the one who was always strong, always positive, always okay. but the truth is, i don't think i was always that person. maybe my strong personality was just something i had to build. maybe being positive was something i learned to become because i didn't have much of a choice. maybe the younger version of me simply became everything our family needed her to be. i never really had the chance to be the weak daughter. i never had the chance to be the one who didn't know what to do. i never had the chance to simply be a child and let someone else figure things out for me. and now, i am genuinely lost lol i don't want to always be the strong one anymore. i don't want to always have the answers. i don't want to feel guilty for needing someone, for feeling tired, or for not knowing what to do with my life🤷🏻♀️
2026-07-22 10:39:28
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malboro blue :
they always see me as the "grumpy ate" "masungit ate" "bastos" but behind all that I'm just a little girl who wants to be understood:)
2026-07-21 23:10:08
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vanillaaa :
there's no shoulder to lean on. only you and your room know the countless tears you've shed in silence. :((
2026-07-21 14:48:44
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shairaaa.sm :
that simple “KAMUSTA KANA?” Means a lot to me, pero never na ask kung kamusta na ba ako 💔
2026-07-22 01:01:32
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lani :
your hug reached me, btw.
2026-07-22 02:31:00
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Sah :
How do we tell our parents that their independent eldest daughter who never asked for help, finally needs it?
2026-07-22 01:50:27
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amdp :
It's not just about being the eldest. Sometimes, it's about whoever ends up carrying the responsibility of supporting the family. I'm not the eldest, but my family relies on me. I always end up making the decisions. They expect me to approve or weigh in on almost everything, even though I never asked them to consult me first. Even if it's just a broken faucet, I'm the first person they run to for a solution. It's mentally exhausting to constantly be asked whether they're doing the right thing, even though I never told them they needed my approval for everything.
2026-07-22 08:53:41
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britttanya :
As an Ate, I need an Ate or Kuya also 🥺
2026-07-21 22:49:16
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Gwenjhana :
and here I am being clinically diagnosed with PTSD, Anxiety DO, and Major Dep. sa mga kapwa ko ate jan, please alagaan nyo rin sarili nyo. ☹️🫶
2026-07-22 06:43:56
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jj :
How do we tell our parents that their independent eldest daughter who never asked for help, finally needs it? Physical ug emotionally!! 😭
2026-07-22 06:12:04
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gel :
This is so real, to others who doesn't agree nor have other pov. This post is for all panganay, I do hope you respect their own perspective. You can create your own post, own perspective without invalidating others feeling. lovelots.
2026-07-21 22:47:18
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hyeri :
Ang hirap, lalo na kapag hindi ka naman nila pine-pressure kasi may tiwala sila sa'yo, Kaya natatakot kang mabigo at wala kang mapatunayan. Kapag ikaw ang ate, ang laki ng responsibilidad mo hindi lang para sa mga kapatid mo kundi para sa buong pamilya rin. Ang dami mong iniisip araw-araw pag-aaral, kinabukasan, at kung paano mo matutulungan ang mga taong umaasa sa'yo. Minsan nakakapagod kasi pakiramdam mo kailangan mong maging matatag palagi, kahit ikaw mismo nahihirapan na.
2026-07-22 04:55:22
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Sheia :
sending hugssss to us (eldest daughters) 🫂❤️
2026-07-22 03:34:56
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æ_v∘˚˳° :
it's our first time living and figuring life too🥺
2026-07-22 05:27:35
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ysa :
And they didn't appreciate all of your hard work and even the simplest thing you do to them and your siblings, all they can see the laziness and how mean i am to them sometimes
2026-07-22 00:14:15
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Ain, RN :
too tired to even care for myself
2026-07-21 20:22:15
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ciaa :
Now i felt guilty for shouting whenever im frustrated and burst it all in my older sissy
2026-07-21 23:04:46
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floren_Jrp. 26 :
how about the "bunso"?? well, for me lahat ng anak feel yan, no need to compete..
2026-07-21 14:19:32
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rzrz :
agayyyyy ako ata to ehhh:((
2026-07-21 08:53:32
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Darelyne :
As a panganay na wala ng tatay, pero may nanay na katuwang ko sa pag alaga ng mga kapatid ko nkakarelate ako dito sobra, birthday ko this coming friday na imbis mag celebrate mas iniisip ko pa ang bayarin, baon ng mga kapatid ko, groceries and bills. like wala din namang magbabago kung mag celebrate ako sayang lang ang gasto. laban lang mga panganay💪
2026-07-22 10:22:02
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shey :
they always say that, walang ate si ate at walang kuya si kuya:))
2026-07-22 03:00:18
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Zen 🧿 :
still remembered this one time na nasa ER kami kasi need kong ma admit, sobrang sakit ng tiyan ko, unexplainable pain. Kasama ko mom and kapatid ko, parang may need i-decide nun (not about me) tas kahit at that moment ako pa rin tinatanong nila kung ano dapat gawin kahit nakita nilang namimilipit na ako sa sakit, I lashed out kasi bakit ako pa rin kahit at that moment. Wala lang, share ko lang, na remember ko lang ulit 🥲😂😭
2026-07-22 05:59:47
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Sheng2x :
panu mga middle child ♥️
2026-07-22 00:14:09
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AnneGanda :
Sana may mag tatanong din sakin kung OK lang ba ako... 😌
2026-07-22 00:37:30
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