@abbyrodmanpsychotherapy: Check your belief system about the narcissist. Check it! If you’re still holding onto the garbage they sold you at the beginning of the relationship, you have become your own worst enemy. Insisting on or persisting in an organizing belief that no longer holds water will keep you in a relationship with a narcissist, narcopath, or sociopath for much longer than is reasonable or healthy.

Denny Padelford :

so I got you beat not that it is a contest I wanted to win but my mother was a Narcissist my brother is bpd I think , and I married a covert narcissist and I survived all of them , but I don't like people a whole lot I keep everyone away from my little family and just trying to enjoy what is left, I wish I could just be like a duck and just let it run off my back like water , that is the goal though Quack my way through it.

user8532881668052 :

I have followed you awhile now, I was curious if his passing has made healing harder or easier ?

phphph7575 :

For me it was giving the benefit of the doubt …despite the doubt being there and wanting to be a nice decent person.

Naomi Shippen Thriller Author :

The lies we tell ourselves.

nwaina :

Had u seen any signs when u were friends?

Max :

It’s interesting how it turns from full in love to disgust almost suddenly. And then you start seeing it all, everything he did, and it feels so strange that he could keep up getting us to believe him at all. But I know why: because, until you have been with one, we can’t imagine that a mind can be so fu*ed up, so totally disconnected from reality, so totally incapable of being honest and real. It’s just not possible to imagine. We expected him to be a normal human being.

user3711678017406 :

when they make these comments, you absolutely don't think they mean them because this is your person, the one who loves you more than anyone else, so obviously they can't possibly mean it. this is your partner, father of your children, basis of your whole world,they can't possibly really think these things about you. And then you find out they did and they do and it takes a while for you to process this and accept it.

💜Purple💜Warrior💜 :

Yes definitely can relate💯

M :

Do you not think they keep up the act of being charming, and good for years. Hiding the way they treat others from you so it’s difficult to see how sock they are.

shoraf :

I actually can't get rid if HER !! (covert narc, psychopath, stalker, you name it)

Vicki :

but how do you account for master manipulators?

ppring65 :

I believe him too.

Michele :

kevinrust8 :

Now as an outsider, I'm disturbed by how I got shrunk into the space she had for me.

Marisa ⚖️🐾🦄 :

Checking now

8severance :

Looking back on your life long friendship with your ex narcopath , do you see any signs of him being narcissistic as a child, teen, young adult or during your best life long friendship in his adult years ? Did he always seem to hate women, or his mother ? Did he talk about women in his life the way he talked to you ? How did he suddenly bamboozle you when you married him and you were blindsided?

Mellicent :

Nailed it!

leaves482 :

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🏝 :

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