@dr.shawna: I’ve been seen this argument everywhere about what kind of men women really want and how dating has gotten more complicated in our current political landscape. There’s some real research that helps us understand our current moment, which is what brings you to part one in my new series “The Politics of Attraction.” In this first episode, we look at connections between politics and masculinity, and explore some use concepts like “value congruence” and “political homophily.” For more on that, let’s go to the research! #LearnOnTikTokContest #socialscience #psychology
I do not equate conservatism with masculinity. The most masculine, confident men I've ever met are liberal. Conservative men have always seemed insecure to me.
2026-07-22 21:55:07
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souredpineapple :
men are intentionally choosing liberal women. that needs to be studied.
2026-07-23 00:48:41
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Kaela :
See I don’t see conservative men looking like Jensen Ackles, they all look like Kid Rock to me. I’ve found the most masculine men are ones that aren’t threatened by femininity.
2026-07-22 22:44:49
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jeneemaree :
There are some racial components to this that are being unsaid. What they often mean is WHITE men, not all men.
2026-07-22 23:22:52
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Khudi :
Most progressive people aren’t as progressive as they think they are
2026-07-22 23:45:31
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Alli :
speaking for myself, if I find out someone is conservative, any physical attraction is immediately gone.
2026-07-22 23:11:20
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JJ :
THOREN BRADLEY?!?
2026-07-22 23:16:03
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Frank :
Those men who claim masculinity don’t even want them to vote.
2026-07-23 05:59:47
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Mrs. C with a PhD :
This is excellent. I am looking forward to you addressing the intersection with race. The experiences of liberal women accidentally dating MAGA men feels like it's more common in White communities.
2026-07-22 21:17:02
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KTbugzVanlife :
Literally ew. Maybe I was attracted to the “hegemonic masculine” traits in the past
2026-07-23 05:36:32
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Necrotelicom Goes Forth By Day :
Oddly, I almost always associate preppy or frat boys with conservative values, especially those with the most dehumanizing expressions.
2026-07-22 20:49:58
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moreorless :
It’s somewhat strange…I am old enough to remember when left wing bearded warriors left no room to question masculinity…Castro..Che..PLO fighters…Vietcong…only in the late post modern west did masculinity abandon the left
2026-07-23 05:46:21
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user8024322751816 :
The reason women keep ending up on dates with Republican men is just a numbers game- a higher percentage of men are Republican than women
2026-07-22 23:26:36
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Daniel Manne, Esq. :
The first tenant of hegemonic masculinity is the categorical rejection of the feminine ("no sissy stuff"). Not a great starting point for a woman looking for a partner
2026-07-22 20:52:41
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Jenn✌️BluntsToBullets :
Conservatives see a "tough guy" in a movie and try to cosplay the look without adopting any of the character's other traits. There's a reason we simp for Aragorn. It's not just "attractive guy with sword".
2026-07-23 02:57:18
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Moonsyne :
I have not heard any liberal women complain about a lack of masculinity in men. Only awareness or maturity.
2026-07-22 23:28:47
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Feral :
Conservative men are just less likely to buck patriarchal conditioning. They more readily play the part of “manly man”.
2026-07-22 21:18:39
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DPR Donuts 🆘🇺🇲🏳️🌈 :
politics =ethics, morals and values. it's weird we keep talking about politics like it isn't entirely about your character
2026-07-22 23:40:15
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0000 :
Your observation that many womens' political beliefs are changing faster than their cultural scripts matches what I've observed while dating as a man who doesn't embody patriarchal masculinity.
2026-07-22 21:22:36
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angerandautism :
I think it’s also worth acknowledging that these are PERCEPTIONS of masculinity. Like a peacock showing its big beautiful colors saying “look how loud and amazing I am”. Told from a very young age that these things are signs of the big strong handsome man that will protect you even though in practice that man would throw you under the bus to protect himself. I have a good friend that gets dreamy eyed every time the worst human being you’ve ever seen walks by because he’s “big manly man” who would let her ☠️in a parking lot instead of getting the healthcare she needs.
2026-07-23 00:13:10
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Bri :
Progressiveness is masculine.
2026-07-23 00:16:28
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Michael Tolbert :
I am what some would probably see as a “highly masculine man”. I am former military (12 years) southern, 6’1”, 225lbs, I work out religiously, hunt, fish, camp, love NFL, and I’m a pastor. However, I am SUPER Progressive. I am pro choice and would probably land further to left of the DSA right now. But I do feel super lonely in this.
2026-07-23 01:00:29
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Jay :
I thought maybe this was going to be a decent series but as soon as you start turning it into a race thing, nope
2026-07-23 03:23:02
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Melissa Harrison :
My extremely liberal, extremely hot husband.
2026-07-23 01:10:32
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aught6andcrabdip :
I work blue collar. Wear a lot of filson and Levi’s. Love football. Train Muay Thai several nights a week. Lift. Bbq on the weekend every so often. Have a red beard. Been told some of my behavior is daddy-ish. Love hunting. Grew up on a mountain. But. I lean way left. Try to support working people as much as I can. Am raising a daughter not to be someone’s wife, but a strong, self possessed woman. I don’t know where these other men like me are but I’ve been on an island for a while and could use a few buddies. Every guy I meet is either put off by the fact I think Palestine has a right to exist or that I too choose the bear, because I have bear tags and my grandma always said bear fat makes the best pie crust.
2026-07-23 03:14:30
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