@tisheilajustice: When someone finally tells you how much they are hurting, they have usually spent a long time convincing themselves not to. Many people are terrified of being a burden, so they only give themselves a few opportunities to see if reaching out feels safe before deciding it is easier to suffer alone. Every response teaches them something about whether they can trust you with their pain. One of the most discouraging experiences is reaching out for support and leaving the conversation feeling responsible for someone else’s emotions. Instead of feeling seen, they end up comforting the very person they hoped would comfort them. That experience can quietly change the relationship and make it much harder to ask for help again. Save this as a reminder that your presence often matters more than having the perfect words. Disclaimer: This post is for education and reflection only and is not a substitute for therapy or individualized mental health care. #traumatherapist #womensmentalhealth #cyclebreaker #cptsd
being my own support system gets exhausting. and when i reach out all i hear is “learn to deal with it alone”. whatever
2026-07-23 05:39:29
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becker :
if you are honest about your needs for support, your friends will abandon and punish you.
2026-08-05 11:39:38
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Em 🆘🇺🇲 :
I've literally had more than one therapist tell me that ✨I✨ was triggering ✨THEM✨ after a childhood of having emotionally neglectful parents. now I am incredibly afraid of talking to anyone about my emotions, as far as my nervous system knows it always means I will be made responsible for how others react to me simply trying to express and process my emotions
2026-07-23 21:25:25
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Jessers LMT 💜 :
Everytime I ask for help, they don't show up. So, yes I stop reaching out.
2026-07-23 05:30:42
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Mike H :
Or you don’t want to initiate more abuse.
2026-07-24 09:10:29
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🦒🦒🦒🦒🦒 :
What support system? They all vanished when I started healing.
2026-08-12 16:32:49
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Summer :
This is why I don’t say anything to anyone anymore. It’s exhausting.
2026-07-23 06:20:31
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Kierra POV 🎦 :
I learned long ago it's best to just write it down and burn it cause most ppl don't give a damn if it doesn't directly affect them. That's a hard pill I had to swallow cause if I'm being honest I don't care to hear ppls issues either. it is exhausting after so long.
2026-07-23 04:36:23
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Kerri :
Oof. I wish I didn’t relate to this.
2026-07-26 05:36:26
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CocoChameleon :
I just keep it to myself and have therapy during my workout.
2026-07-23 16:09:38
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Sprinks 🆘️ 🇺🇸 🏳️🌈 :
I told my dad years ago when I got my depression diagnosis. The first question out of his mouth was 'well what are you depressed about?'. I've never talked to him about it again. 🙃
2026-07-23 17:23:52
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Kiana :
Or you do and they do get triggered and then you get left just like you expected
2026-07-23 13:53:00
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mayjaekxofk :
my fear is people blaming me for my struggling or acting like i should be doing something different
2026-07-23 12:59:44
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aoi_yuki :
Fun, I don’t even have a support system 🥲
2026-08-13 10:12:33
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GoWhereYouGrow :
I reached out about how I was feeling and was told “I’ll pray for you” I didn’t need prayer, I needed presence. You were praying while I was dying
2026-08-07 08:51:29
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roguegremlin :
when I was curled up on the floor sobbing after I had to move back in with my mom after my partner died suddenly, she leaned over me and said "you have got to stop. I can't deal with this right now ok? I'm going through a lot and I can't handle any more"
2026-07-24 16:01:35
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seb :
ok everything you said makes sense.
2026-07-23 03:16:15
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Jerr The Hooman :
I told my best friend I was dealing with SI and she hysterically cried so I always yell her I'm good now.
2026-07-25 15:45:15
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Holly Blue :
Oh it's not a fear. They tell me I'm a disappointment and a burden to my face.
2026-07-23 17:30:34
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Lost My Mind In Watertown, NY :
It should be a back and forth. If you share your struggles with someone…..they should be able to share their struggles with you.
2026-07-23 07:45:00
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wildflowersinwonderland :
The last person I trusted was supposed to be safe, and absolutely broke me. Never again.
2026-07-24 01:29:10
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H :
Im here now with my mum and family in general. I just numb the pain
2026-07-29 10:13:15
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JustLucky :
I just don't want to be a burden or be the reason someone is worried. Just like being the brightness to thier day.
2026-07-23 05:07:57
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