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Thursday 23 July 2026 16:11:34 GMT
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Little Liam’s Journey :
Try this with someone who assumes bad intent and demands to know why. They inevitably put you into a defensive position. This is extremely frustrating especially when you acknowledge your mistakes, validate their feelings, apologize sincerely, and then make sure you never do it again. But because the conversation started in bad faith from their assumptions, it’s unrepairable.
2026-07-24 16:37:28
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1111Sabine1111 :
Context, isnt always wanted. Sometimes all we need is for our betrayer to witness our pain & sit with it. Sometimes the context ends up causing more pain in the mental, & needs to wait for a separate conversation when the betrayed isnt flooded.
2026-07-24 06:41:46
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Joseph A P Holsten :
It’s fun because last one wins. If I bring up the hurt I feel because what you did today after I’ve hurt you for years diminishing your capacity, undermining your support network and burning you out; all those years of injury to you don’t matter because we have to focus on how I have hurt feelings in this moment.
2026-07-23 19:53:54
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ibztermirz :
When someone is loyal to their feelings, they will always bend your will to favour their ease of mind. Awareness of real issues is a skill, maturity comes from this and not having to problem solve every sweeping emotion.
2026-07-23 16:44:47
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HeartGuard Dating :
yes! my ex did this. I'd tell him a hurt, he would immediately explain WHY he did that, I would be supportive to him because it made sense and I loved him (and I was overly empathetic and giving), and he'd just keep doing the behavior. it was manipulation wrapped up as self-awareness, emotional intelligence. very very tricky.
2026-07-24 13:33:17
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Jenny Dorsey :
Put this on her fyp page not mine pls 🙃
2026-07-24 13:10:49
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CharlieDoingCharlieStuff :
ive always taken issue with "help me understand how this impacted you" because i feel like all that takes is stepping into the shoes of the person you hurt. what if they did the same thing to you? how would you feel?!
2026-07-25 23:53:32
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AlmostEntropy :
ugh... this may be a lot of men, but this is also 100% my mother
2026-07-24 22:33:39
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Cesar :
Real accountability is a shared reality that some people don’t want to be in.
2026-07-24 18:59:48
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Radz 🇦🇺| Life after healing :
This is SO well put! I experienced exactly this with / from my partner yesterday and you just gave my cognitive mind a great explanation of why I felt seen and heard by him 🙏.
2026-07-24 01:04:27
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C :
Institutional betrayal is devastating
2026-07-24 16:14:26
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🧠 David | markets & investing :
At what point do you consider though that someone is acting out of bad behaviour and it’s not actually your fault?
2026-07-24 12:44:16
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Willow Yoder :
thanks for this video. Definitely something my hubby and I both struggle with
2026-07-23 17:51:23
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WiggleWired :
Can healing begin if they don't know why they did what they did?
2026-07-24 03:05:53
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jillgarmon :
This is a lot of words
2026-07-24 03:35:23
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emme :
brilliant.
2026-07-24 14:17:19
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Evoke Equines :
Learning to find the healthy balance of your own experience and trying not to be self referential is a tricky line to walk. We will not be perfect at it, it’s a goal to aim at.
2026-07-24 10:09:29
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Sasha :
That was powerful, thank you
2026-07-24 06:51:24
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Oi Oi Oi :
Every time I watch your video, I learn and gain valuable insights. Thank you 🙏
2026-07-23 22:38:19
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renee-on-tiktok 🇨🇦 :
God I wish I could afford you as my therapist 🥰
2026-07-23 19:28:07
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Melody Johnson :
"Healing doesn't begin when your pain is understood. Healing begins when your partner no longer has to compete with your pain in order for theirs to matter." 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 This is the biggest dose of clarity that I desperately needed. That my pain matters in this marriage too. 🥺🥺🥺
2026-07-30 10:13:04
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