@newbeginningspsychology: #cptsd #trauma #complextrauma #complextraumaawareness #traumas

bambam11820 :

Is it ever a blend of both ?

Aaron D'Costa :

This video makes it sound like those are the only two options stemming from that shame.

Char char binks :

My mother: I guess she’s putting on all this weight due to puberty? Me, building my armor of fat and making myself bigger to fight him off: 👀

endallendo🎗️ :

I've experienced both sides of this spectrum and it creates even more shame 😔

fee fee :

I found I was over promiscuous becos on some weird level I honestly thought if I give them what they want they will love me. intellectually I understood they were just using me ,but I still believed that one day one of them would love me. each time I was devastated heart broken when they would just walk away.

bellowing_tulip :

I went through both sides. Grateful to be on the other side and living life as God intended ❤️❤️❤️

Jenny’s :

You explain it well how do victims heal

yola_100 :

Is it normal to go through both sides at different stages in life?

Bec’s Realm ✨💖✨ :

Know this all too well 🥺

Jo79 :

I can relate to this so much I had childhood sa right up until I left home at 16 I than used to go out and meet up with boys/men than in my adult life I had dv and sa from my x husband and now I hide away from men so I don’t get seen. I’m completely broken and have so much shame and I’m worth nothing

Steve :

Devastating

The Brightest Star :

I absolutely love, how me just paying attention in this lifetime. It's almost as good as an education

Dpz :

How do you find middle ground though or become healthy?

nerin02 :

im parenting my niece who i found out had been sa from 9-14 its been about 12 months since we took her in and I often question if im doing the right things to support her. im so greatful I found your page thank you for your knowledge.

This is me! :

Does it have to be one or the other?

milushka70 :

I eat and dont dress up..

corrina :

im been through both sides

MEDIGILIANO :

Yes.... unfortunately I was to go through several more events that by themselves would have traumatised me but by the time I was 17.... everything was compounded by the others. I hid in substance abuse and somehow managed to overavhieve at work....now early 50's I'm sober and realising the utter devastation. To make sure it really hurts I'm apparently above average intelligence lol...so I have always had an ability to self reflect but through broken lens. THROUGH A GLASS... DARKLY

Jenny’s :

Then there is manipulation

Steve :

Anna :

I was the latter, but as I got older, I have started to sexually retreat. I wish I was never harmed.

Angelica | 💙 :

I think maybe that’s one of the main reasons I don’t like dating. I was I think 11? Maybe at the time well the first time.

yasohkvweqc :

I don’t feel shame and never have but my sister is what you described as a person working. Why did I not take the shame?

jennyjellylellybean :

Please can you do more on shame and maybe other causes of it in relation to trauma?

Cam Ray :

I would love you to talk more about the shame wound in conjunction with SA. I would say I went more into a perfectionist role. That shame wound was/is so deep.