@k45.tattoo: This felt terrifying most of my life. I spent most of that in isolation and had all the same excuses you’re probably thinking of right now. I know it’s not easy but it is simple. It’s really a matter of bravery and following this simple system. If it’s too much you need to start just being in public to show your nervous system that it’s safe. One step at a time, but don’t pretend there isn’t a step to take. Let me know if I can provide anymore insight you need

ftxqi :

but what do i do if I'm scared shitless to even sit near someone during lectures?

em :

everyone already has their own friends though

pluiegrise :

No one shares my interests I’ll be friends with myself

Tang :

What are some common hobbies or things Neurotypical people talk about? I find it hard to get them to open up so I need something basic other then sports

! :

I really wonder. I do get sad being lonely, but mental health causes you to almost purposely isolate yourself. Yet when I socialize with my friends or other peers, I don’t feel happy/better I just feel internally annoyed and disconnected even further. I don’t know if it’s that I haven’t found people that I relate to, if there is something wrong or anti-social in me that needs to heal, or if perhaps maybe I am just a solitary person and it is better that way.

mikwo🦌🫀 :

im sometimes sad i dont have that many friends but i also realize i could be doing more to actually socialize😭

mitskilover742 :

Hey so how would I apply slide three in a school setting? I’m an incoming junior and I’d like to be able to (mostly) know what to say in terms of talking to new people

🧷 𝖅𝖆𝖈𝖍 ──★ :

As a former loner. This is true, learning to make friends is very much so a skill. As any skill, it takes some practice but you can get there.

ohnoitsdonovan :

I think the excuses thing is what i really had to hear and reflect on. Thank you

Toñito :

lol used to be a social butterfly but now I tell myself I can't find new friends and be social until I get my life together (4 years of isolation and counting....)

❀Minnie/Monie❀ :

Hello! So I’ve had mental health issues for a long time and because I’m both neurodivergent and clinically depressed and anxious so I’ve sorta…either lost connections or never had like…the ability to foster new ones because socializing is not my fortitude so…any suggestions?

Zeebruh :

does a workin a min job count as a social place? or school/college(most of my friends in school/college are onl friends for the class, afterwards they dont even hang or we dont chat abt random stuff, jus life. sometimes go to a neary cafe before or after that class)

blegabeciii :

how can i meet people of the opposite gender and not get feelings immediately

Shinx :

Can you maybe make a video of how to get over a break up? My boyfriend or ex now I guess broke up with my 3 days ago :( in short he wasn’t happy anymore. I miss him sm

♠︎♡ℝ𝕖𝕩♥︎♤ :

I really want to talk to this one girl at school I want to be friends with, but I don't know how to start a conversation with her because she is always around her friends. not that I am intimidated by them, it's just that it feels a little wierd to come up to her and try to talk to her with her friends around. plus, she's never really alone, and I don't have any classes with her from what I know. any way i could still talk to her?

солли :

i don't think that will work honestly everyone hated me for a long time now and i don't think it'll stop i js accepted it now that i will js have a small group of me and my 2-3 friends who i barely hang out with i'm a massive failure imo

Nate𒉭 :

Hey

haribo :

i might never be able to do this i always have headphones on in public and i dont want to put it off

him :

dimasik :

what to do if im a foreigner in a small town? everyone knows each other and I dont fit in

King Kuda :

eek.nameislong :

i completely agree, i learned this on my own but cant wait to try it soon

GabeNdorf :

can you do a video/slideshow on the consequences of loneliness?

shhitssus :

I’m chronically lonely I need help

𝐻𝒶𝓎𝒹𝑒𝓃🪽 :

And guys use the internet get on your local facebook group and maybe find a group to join and chat about interests with ppl in ur area!