@benjamminbaker: if your friend or family member confides in you about being forced to sleep with someone and you gaslight and victim blame, don’t expect ANYONE to feel empathetic if it happens to you. the severity of trauma varies from person to person, but it’s still very serious and difficult for real victims to speak up about. it seems as though everyone has an opinion to share with the victim when it’s not even their trauma to talk about and has advice on how they “should” react or cope. the absolute least you can do for someone you care about is cut all ties with the perpetrator. it’s such a simple concept, but unfortunately, common sense and common courtesy aren’t very common anymore. if you’re a survivor reading this, cut anyone and everyone out of your life who believes and protects the perpetrator once you have the independence to do so. forgiveness is not something you owe them, and it probably won’t bring you peace. you can still hate them and forget that they exist. “forgiveness” protects predators more than anything because they evade the consequences of their own actions. take your power back and never be kind to someone who insists that you have to forgive. it’s YOUR decision whether or not you forgive someone, but i still haven’t and never will, and i’ve never loved myself more than i do now knowing that i will succeed and accomplish all of my goals while i ruin the lives of each individual who almost cost me mine. revenge is not worthless, petty, or wrong in serious cases where justice was never served, as long as you don’t break any laws to get it ;) #fyp

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Saturday 25 July 2026 20:54:14 GMT