@meltcouplesmassage: The second pattern you want to learn when massaging your partner's back at home, is this - I call it the Basic Stroke. It's a 4 step pattern. Patterns make it really easy to remember what to do next. When you follow a pattern your partner will relax into your massage a whole lot more. When your partner is relaxed you'll be able to massage much deeper with less effort. You'll give a much better massage and use less energy following a pattern like this. NOTE: its not the only pattern. There's more. But it's one that you want to start with because it's so basic.