@jadastoptopsecret:

chloé :

its crazy feeling like this too as someone that used to prioritize love over everything it feels like

shenk.xis :

One of the most mature realizations you can have is understanding that love isn’t just about finding the right person: it’s also about becoming the version of yourself that has the capacity to love well. Sometimes, the most loving decision isn’t starting a relationship. It’s admitting you don’t have the emotional, financial, or mental bandwidth to build one right now. We often celebrate people who “do it all,” but life doesn’t really work that way. Every “yes” is also a “no” to something else. Building a career, healing from past experiences, paying off debt, raising children, starting a business, going back to school: these things require enormous amounts of attention and energy. Pretending you have unlimited capacity doesn’t make you stronger. It usually just makes you exhausted. There’s a difference between protecting your peace and avoiding intimacy. One is rooted in wisdom; the other is rooted in fear. The challenge is being honest enough to know which one you’re doing. If you’re investing in yourself because you’re building a stronger foundation for the life you want, that’s growth. If you’re using self-improvement to indefinitely avoid vulnerability, that’s a different conversation. The motive matters just as much as the decision. Ironically, people who intentionally step away from dating for a season often have healthier relationships later because they stop looking for someone to rescue them from the life they haven’t built yet. They enter relationships wanting to share a life instead of asking someone else to create one for them. That’s a completely different starting point. The phrase: “before I have the capacity to pour into someone else.” Capacity isn’t about how much love you have. It’s about how much margin you have. You can deeply care about someone and still not have the emotional availability to consistently show up for them. Love without capacity often turns into guilt, resentment, or burnout; not because the feelings aren’t real, but because the resources aren’t there. Life moves in seasons. Some seasons are for building. Some are for healing. Some are for serving and some are for partnership.

˙❀ℒ𝒶𝓁𝒶❀˙ :

Like I can’t love someone else until I love myself

Meysamet :

Therapist here. Highly recommend reading Healing Isn’t Pretty by Mira Hartson. Your anger and sadness is an appropriate response to the big and small betrayals you have experienced your whole life. Time to heal.

❥ armani. :

and then they just make you feel.. shitty anyways so what’s actually the point

Stephengetsittogether :

Sameeeeeee omg took me too long to get here just posted my first videos wish me luck 🍀

Hannah :

I always feel most like myself single and actually get things done

cindylouha🎀 :

Real asf

Ruby🥥 :

Exactly.

Mars :

reallll

Isabella 🕊️ :

If you feel the need for this, pursue this! It can be very healing if you are consistent with your changes. Any meaningful connections you are meant to make along the way, I am sure you will — and this also goes for friendships, career connections, or strengthening familial bonds. Emphasis on meaningful, because those who cannot understand your growth cannot be meaningful for long or they will drain you. Even if it is good for a time, not all connections are meant to stay forever. It is healthy to be picky. Time passes either way. Like autumn leaves the unnecessary will shed, and the beauty will bloom through, again and again. Sometimes it’s necessary to embrace the winter. Why not fill your memories with all of your goals? This is the greatest form of love because one day, you can pour small amounts or share larger amounts with those you love… and those people you love will have to maintain themselves at the same high standards you naturally begin to hold yourself accountable to. Then you will understand those leaves you have shed before will have the soil around allow for your loved ones to bloom, too. Inshallah the many forms of love and blessings all around you will bloom. And most of all, Inshallah you will bloom, and enjoy the sunlight for the remainder of your many long, beautiful days, stranger.

jos 🌷 :

I lost myself fr

D💕 :

Realest TikTok.. & the timing too

￴￴ ￴ :

So grateful to have this realization at 16

whoisjoslynn69 :

i’m so aware of all the things i need to do, and i know that i wouldn’t be able to give them the attention and time they deserve as my partner

pearl :

and that’s why I ended a two year relationship in ten minutes 🤩 I gotta put me first

… :

I have the desire but not the passion

jannah ❀ :

this is my exact mindset! couldn’t have worded it better

E ♡ :

literally

helená 🎀 :

no because it is that deep

ian :

right person wont get in the way 😼

taffylx :

FR

kayla💕 :