Two Hot Takes
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Glenda :
groomsman/ groomswoman = who stands on grooms side. bridesmaids/ brideman = who stands on brides side. its that simple. your brother is making this a big deal for no reason
2026-07-27 20:16:56
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David Climie :
He misunderstood. He thought you wanted him to be with you so people would know he was born female or so people would see him as feminine. But you truly just wanted both your siblings by your side. The ideal solution would be to ask fiancé to limit his side of the wedding party to best man and one groomsman so that way the only people beside bride are siblings and brother doesn’t see the choice as wanting him to be female/feminine but wanting brither at her side
2026-09-18 20:45:49
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Kimberly Ann :
Taylor Swift had her brother on her side 🤷🏻♀️
2026-07-27 19:28:29
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not my real name :
my brother was my husband's groomsman. He still was standing for me. This thought process that being with the boys mean he's only there for the hubby is wild. She is the AH, and he is overreacting a little bit.
2026-09-19 18:21:04
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user370434797699 :
Weird for him to be so hung up on gender stereotypes tho.
2026-07-28 06:04:52
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🦕Smashie🦕 :
Upcoming bride here! I asked a friend of mine who’s Trans female to male to be a bridesman and he was delighted! Definitely an insecurity thing that has nothing to do with you!
2026-07-28 20:50:07
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stehtszumiefen :
both arent the assholes he obviously still had gender dysphoria but she didn't mean no harm,but she should accept a no
2026-07-29 06:47:33
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tripplandia :
I get the sensitivity but if he is being invited to wear a suit to match the ladies, it literally is a completely normal thing. Sad. He clearly has a lot of trauma.
2026-07-27 22:31:01
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ᣞᵐᵃᵉˡᣞ :
so many people here don't know how it is being trans and don't even try to put himself into his shoes its sad honestly
2026-08-02 06:14:44
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Stevie🇦🇺 :
He is being over sensitive, she just wants her brother involved, this is perfectly reasonable
2026-07-28 03:47:23
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.moonz.ie :
NTA: he’s clearly still insecure and it’s you’re wedding he doesn’t have to be you’re bridesman, but he’s being entitled by trying to be on he grooms side
2026-07-27 20:44:01
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Thewlis Marcia :
i think he's not in a place where he feels confident enough in his new identity to be comfortable being a bridesman altho i see nothing wrong with it but kick him out of the wedding is too harsh. this is the kind of situation where everyone is probably gonna have to make concessions. respect that he doesnt want to be a bridesman, keep him at the wedding but he had to accept that he probably wouldnt be able to be a groomsman either due to number of people limited and that the fiance doesnt have to accomodate Jake over his own groomsmen (that probably been decided a long time ago too) 🤷
2026-07-27 21:57:09
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Stede Bonnet🏴☠️ | 🌍🍝 :
while I don't think it's transphobic of her to ask at all, I do think that after the brother presented his point of it making him uncomfortable and him not wanting to be a braidsman it should have ended at that
2026-08-02 17:19:48
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Redboned_n_stoned :
NTA such a cute idea I get why he refused but he has no reason to freak out on OP like that. She did nothing wrong and nothing in her post implied she was unsupportive of him and his identity
2026-07-27 21:52:19
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melissanauheimer :
my husband had his sister as his "best WOman" everyone knew she was a girl
2026-07-28 00:53:30
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Kubi :
my cis bother was my maid of honor, but he wasnt battling transphobia and transitioning. let him stand on the grooms side - thats about to be his brother in law. dont overthink it.
2026-07-27 22:24:33
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EaeraAnastasia :
having dysphoria over that is unfortunate, but understandable. OP didn't mean no harm, but once she understood the issue, she should've been apologetic and helped her brother to find a better solution
2026-08-01 11:49:39
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tonyy :
I get his point and understand how that can trigger his gender dysphoria but she wasn't doing anything wrong either
2026-07-29 19:45:53
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Ashley Marie :
umm. my SIL had her best (gay) friend walk down & stand with us girls. He carried my niece, whom was the flower girl (we joked he was the ring bearer - there was no ring bearer; niece was a year old). We had a blast.
2026-07-27 21:27:55
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Megan Gray :
Not at all!
2026-07-28 10:53:07
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Ray Rieves :
My brother had a grooms woman. She's overreacting.
2026-07-28 03:46:46
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1234567890 :
sounds like Jake is making this wedding about gimself
2026-07-29 00:58:38
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Bean :
My cousin who is a man born a man was a bridesman for me no problem! We just want important people beside us (:
2026-07-27 20:03:08
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morard491977 :
I think it's because he's still insecure about his transition TBH...
2026-07-27 21:30:56
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眠い || Sleepy :
I can completely understand why he would feel like that but she wasn’t in the wrong either
2026-08-02 12:00:32
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