TheAlgorithmbroughtmetou :
Been there especially with the black cloud that comes after the trauma dumping manipulation phone call. This can add issues to your marriage-it for sure did for us. He may be trauma bonded to mom, he may be still trying to be a good Son, mommies little man of her house, he may be feeling tremendous Fear, Obligation and GUILT when she calls. Whatever the reason-emotional emancipation is key-especially for men and their mothers-especially if they are mama boys aka mother enmeshed men or if they are seeking validation, approval, hero, fixer-whatever ROLE in their family of origin. Talk about it in couples therapy. It helped us-it helped him to get out of his FOG-to be able to set boundaries, to be able to see the phone call and ignore or or let it go silent or even BLOCK bc he is no longer tethered to the dysfunctional cycle-the bird officially flees the nest and loves from afar however that looks. Just my opinion-men and their dysfunctional mothers is a very complex issue. It is a different type of developmental trauma for sure. ALSO-the enablers-his siblings, his aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents they could all be a part of the reason he is still tethered-they amplify the FOG with their gaslighting. Rarely is it ever JUST the mother . 💯💯🤔🤔 These books helped us as well! Focus on his emotional emancipation, your marriage and it may be time to let mommy and his ROLE GO.
2026-07-28 02:15:05