@anxiouslyalej: There is a palpable difference between the man who treats your relationship as an HONOR and the man who treats it as a FAVOR. And the difference was never about how much you did for him. The women who do LESS are not doing nothing. They are doing less over-functioning, less over-explaining, less over-accommodating, because they operate from security and abundance instead of fear and scarcity. When you over-function, you are not acting based on how you want him to feel, you are moving based on the emotion you are actively trying to avoid. And you stay so busy performing that you never come back to yourself long enough to see the disparity between the effort you are putting forth and the effort he is. Because the scariest place to be as a woman is in a relationship he settled into, since a man who has not consciously chosen this will have to continue to be convinced. You deserve to be known and loved by a man who understands your words and more importantly, your silence. I break this all the way down in my new YouTube video, why women who do less end up in better relationships, including why you should never be the one selling the relationship and how to tell a man who chose you from a man you convinced. Keywords: dating advice for women, relationship psychology, over-functioning in relationships, feminine energy, do less for men, do less in relationships #datingadviceforwomen #womensdatingadvice #relationships #datingadvice

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stardust20133
Stardust :
If I do less, it doesn’t get done. :/ and then I’m stuck doing it anyway.
2026-07-30 00:06:00
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hgfsgjk6
hgfsgjk :
Over-functioning is a form of BEGGING 😬🫣 don't do it
2026-07-29 18:40:13
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mandishhhh
mandishh :
so he can treat diff women diff ways based off his perceived value of them?
2026-07-29 04:08:08
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angelinokon
Angel 🇺🇸🤎👸🏾 :
over functioning is a trauma response
2026-08-02 14:34:48
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pammarsden3
pammarsden3 :
yep, I've had both and I'm here to say life with the man who wants to do more for you is much better.
2026-07-29 06:00:46
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carinovibez
Cariño Vibez :
Learning that doing less doesn’t mean caring less, it means not carrying the whole relationship.
2026-08-08 13:53:20
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sk8rgirl93
Sk8RGirl93 :
This is crazy. I’ve been BOTH of those women in the same exact relationship. It’s more about YOU than it is about him. Stop over functioning & watch what happens.
2026-08-04 20:05:42
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currylipps
Jeuel :
Exactly... I had to learn this the hard way.
2026-07-29 04:43:47
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saraduffy5
Sara D 🇮🇪 :
I was married for a long time and I'm single for 6.5 years now. NOTHING is lonelier than crying with someone right beside you, NOTHING.
2026-09-14 18:34:58
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martincito._.0
Martin :
You are only stating your worth when you decide to keep to yourself and not break the no contact phase. If somebody wants you in their life they will make sure to make space for you and to make you feel wanted. My Boy My Toy by Kali Avalore finally made me realise that you can never be chosen by the other person if they don’t want to choose you.
2026-07-29 21:52:25
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mybelle_84
Mybelle :
So for real! I basically forced my last bf into a relationship and it was awful. He didn’t care for me or respect. I decided to do things differently this time and have a wonderful man who adores me and chooses me. I just sit back and let him care for me
2026-07-29 14:00:27
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ararebreed85
Ararebreed :
Reads us for filth!!! Everything you say is FACTS!!!!!
2026-07-29 14:06:27
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mocky254
Mocklyne :
Oh goodness! This is true!!!
2026-07-29 04:03:48
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kelleydaring
kelleydaring :
Yes to all of this.
2026-07-29 13:24:38
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c_amz1288
RoxC :
Facts 100%
2026-07-29 04:49:26
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sweetsfa673
SweetF :
Disappearing and ignoring periodically works too.
2026-07-31 16:51:18
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user888goldie
GLORY 🔆 :
Thank you for everything. You are so beautiful, love the dress on you
2026-07-30 02:37:26
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mellicents
Mellicent :
Period.🙏
2026-07-29 05:49:00
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cherry71plum
chickshock :
Thank you, what an eye opener
2026-07-29 05:18:54
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verapris24
verapris24 :
I realized he was the 2nd guy you mentioned, only a few months short of being 6yrs together…
2026-07-29 05:19:05
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k_pasi
🩷❤️🧡Krista🧡❤️🩷 :
I just asked for a divorce a few days ago for this very reason. I gave him 4 years and he’s still less than bare minimum.
2026-09-15 22:21:47
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gingerroots4u
Libby :
HOW DID YOU KNOW HE USED CHESS TO ESCAPE? 🫪 For anyone who needs to hear it, I left last week. It gets better.
2026-09-14 17:06:23
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coachyelenak
coachyelenak :
Absolutely true. The first time me and my boyfriend were together, I was over functioning and it didn’t work great. Now I am being true to myself, and our relationship has never been better.
2026-08-02 01:52:49
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sallywebs18
Sallywebs :
Soooo on point. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
2026-08-01 05:41:13
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gypsystar129
GypsiStar ♥️💛 :
Nailed it. Thank you.
2026-08-01 12:46:34
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