@healthygamer.gg: you don't have to fully drop the smile for some people to already feel it change

Zumey Bear :

My partner 1000% catches on this quick and I (the healing BPD person), immediately starts recognizing the changing response/tone shift occurring..knowing it's because MY face, or tone shifted a bit (usually because I'm worried it's gunna happen) and it's just a crap cycle. But! I don't react..I just try to breathe it out. though that also sucks because I wish I wasn't the only one cognitively realizing nothing is actually wrong and defenses aren't needed.