@cypher.j: (if this videos lagging! you're early! come back later!) this is a more serious talk about the mechanisms of grooming. Most people's harm discernment doesn't consider it because they don't think it's possible. #relationships #dating #Love
grooming is not accounted for age , it's a power imbalance. anyone can be groomed.
2026-08-27 11:18:39
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wuidward :
this makes me think of aba from aba and preach
2026-08-29 14:25:33
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Keni :
I feel we should just use Manipulation for it, because when someone calls someone a Groomer - we shouldn't conflate what they did with Grooming, which is what most people associate with child predation.
2026-07-30 22:57:59
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Purple_Nebula_System :
when i was 25 i was groomed by a 40 year old woman .. most people wouldnt see that as grooming but it was. i dodnt know inwas being groomed bc im autistic. that relationship fucked me up really really bad.
2026-07-31 19:36:18
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Social hazard :
I don’t disagree. But. Same energy.
2026-07-31 00:04:09
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Adrienne :
“The distinction is whether or not your time is being used to discover another person’s freedom or reorganize their freedom” BARS!
2026-07-30 23:12:32
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🦇MsCupcakeNoire🥀 :
"They were not discovering compatibility. They were manufacturing it." TRUEST BARS EVER SPOKEN!
2026-07-31 02:12:02
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Amanda :
I have been saving your videos for so long… I listen to the end each time. My biggest question has become, “damn, how many lives have you lived to get here?!?” I don’t say this lightly: you NEVER miss. Tysm for your videos, fr. I love watching so many people (including me) learn from you!! Keep going man, love everything you share with us 👏💕💕
2026-08-01 06:39:56
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No1.cucumber :
or they think grooming is ONLY about sex. even tho red pill pushers have been grooming young men to step aside, AS COMPETITION, for over a decade and nobody bats an eye
2026-08-01 00:06:02
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This Model Eats A Lot :
"they didn't ask you to abandon yourself, they just kept rewarding the version of you that did" WOOF 🔥
2026-08-03 01:24:28
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Mem0 :
DID A ESSAY ABOUT THIS FOR ENGLISH!!!!!! AND GOT MADE FUN OF!!! BUT PROFESSOR LIKED IT
2026-07-31 05:50:35
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Anais🥑 :
Mannn you be too earlyyyy
2026-07-30 22:46:08
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Jae The Grey Fae - Original :
I think what's worse is when you get blamed for your grooming if not outright compared to being as bad as your groomer
2026-07-31 14:35:23
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ATM0701 :
You cooked with this one my boy 💯💯💥💥 “The scary part of grooming isn’t even crossing your boundaries, it causes you to forget where your boundaries use to be. People in different situations, did not wake up w/ different boundaries and different standards. You woke up one day unable to remember when they moved . ”
2026-08-01 03:44:15
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Lone Wolf 🐺 :
It happened to be from age 25-28. Then I was sexually taken advantage of and then psychologically abused by the guy. It turned into a whole beef spiral. It was insane
2026-07-31 03:29:15
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Peach 🍑 :
This hit deep
2026-07-30 23:56:22
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DallasRealtor_Quin E :
This was so needed !!!!!!
2026-07-31 14:59:56
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🚼 :
genuinely pin this video everyone needs to hear this
2026-07-30 23:35:43
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IYANU :
Thank you for the work you continue to do
2026-07-30 23:54:29
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4k4b4__ :
I was indeed too early
2026-07-30 22:40:44
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nioxist.ab :
First 😂😂😂
2026-07-30 22:37:04
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Alexander :
it's bad that I can't tell if im grooming my partner isn't it.. I ask my partner at the end of every day to show me her texts out of curiousity(we know basically all the same people, did before we started dating too) but also out of a lack of trust towards her since she cheated on me a lot at the start of the relationship and she doesn't know how to say no to people she cares about(including about romantic or sexual stuff), ive admitted all of this to her before but both of us really want to hold onto the relationship even though she's cheated before and I never manage to stay out of her business, am I manipulating/grooming her or are we just both damaged?
2026-07-31 18:46:43
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