@drb_unfiltered: One of my biggest f*cking frustrations with ADHD research is where they stop. When studies document ADHDers losing interest or disconnecting without explaining why, they risk reinforcing the toxic narrative that we’re just cold, inconsistent partners who get bored. Partners think that you don’t love them, while you think there is something wrong with how you love. Language is so f*cking important because this isn’t just a random emotional flake, it’s an executive function experience. Working memory, cognitive flexibility, and emotional regulation dictate in part whether your brain can retrieve closeness when you’re overwhelmed. When those systems get fried, your brain has lost access to the f*cking file of the love, interest desire. Understanding these layers helps stop people from blaming themselves and helps us build accommodations. That’s why I’ve spent 8 years of clinical practice, speaking at conferences, and teaching clinicians developing the Executive Desire Model, a conceptual framework currently prepping for formal research testing (and the subject of my upcoming book 👀). We have to stop settling for surface level explanations for deep neurodivergent experiences. Disclaimer: Strictly for educational purposes based on my clinical observations and conceptual framework. Not individual therapy, medical advice, or clinical diagnosis. 📚 Reference: PMID 41820756 #adhd #Relationship #research

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